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12 Feb 08 #13684 by aqua09
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My wife left me just after the New Year. She was due to go to a friend's wedding in Turkey and just never came back. We bought a property over there off plan 12 months ago and it seems she fell for a Turkish guy back then and was just waiting for the opportunity to go. She has left both children 6 and 10 with me and says she has no interest in custody. They are currently living in our Turkish property whilst I continue to live in the family home and pay all bills without any contribution from her whatsoever. We have total equity between the 2 properties of £140,000 and she seems to think a fair settlement would be for her to keep the Turkish property valued at around £70,000. Is this fair? We were married for 12 years and she moved into my property when we met I had a £43000 mortgage on a property worth £50,000 before we moved. To further complicate my parents gave us £35,000 to reduce our mortgage about 3 years ago.

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12 Feb 08 #13702 by mike62
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Doesn't sound very fair to me at all - you are the parent with care? And she just tripped off? Nope. Very least I would say ids a 65:35 split of property in your favour, plus she needs to contribute to the upkeep of her 2 children. If she earns money out there, she needs to be paying you 20% of her nett income. Else she needs to be thinking about giving up a chunk more of the equity split to compensate you.

It isn't that clearcut and you would need to post a lot of information up for someone to give you a realistic idea of what is fair, but her proposal just isn't.

Go take a look at the Wikivorce calculator - it will guide you to what is a reasonable settlement ballpark.


Only put digits in (no £ or ,000) and don't use a decimal point.

If you can't make any sense, post again and someone will help.

Best of luck

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