FMH always been in my name, 6 years ago we legally seperated, docs signed at sol. Saying house was mine, he had no rights etc. Anyway he still lives there, have filed for div, thought about the Non molestation/ occupancy route due to his agression, but seeing as we agreed house was mine, surely I cn chnge loacks, get sol to write a polite letter, saying he can collect his things, when someone else is there, or am i being daft.
This is just terrifying me, i am just waiting for him to explode, and the kids are suffering
From a legal and practical standpoint, I would say yes you can change the locks - but surely just doing that without him being aware of it coming is going to provoke a violent response from him?
What if you write him a letter giving him 24 hrs / 7 days to move himself and his things out? At least that way he has some degree of control in the process. He must have seen this day coming, surely by now. Or do you think the 'change the locks and damn the consequences' route will be easier on you?
If you did it to me, Mr mild mannered Mike62 would come out fighting. If you presented me with an opportunity to do it under my own steam, I would still resent it, but a lot less.
If you were to go down the notice route, I would be very careful about putting any 'consequences' for non-compliance like 'or I will be changing the locks' in the letter - just the bald facts - sling your hook and take your stuff.
Just my thoughts, you know him much better than I do.
Thanks Mike, I think that the letter is a good idea, can I offer to pack for him lol. I had hoped to have the explosion and get it over and down with instead, he is not saying a word to me, which is worse, as I am even more stressed, and this wont help anyone.
So I think I polite letter explaining that for all of our sakes that, it would be better for him to leave, so as not to cause any undue stress to the kids and me as well.
Still shocked that it has all come down to this, so head is all over the place. Thanks again Mike