settling up

I have my first full mediation Thurs and we have to declare all monies etc.
We are not going to be in the same room as it is not amacable.
I am hoping to buy him out of the house. We have only been married 2 1/2 yrs and no children. I am in a better job since sep and we split oct. It is all totally his fault we split up. He will not pay for total costs only his own. I was prepared for a 50:50 split but to be quite honest I am fed up. He kept sending me letters and emails which I had to tell my solicitor and it cost me. He has harassed my sister at work and phoned my mum. Then to top it all he sent me an email on valentines day to manipulate and make me feel bad. Every time he does something it costs me money He even threatened my solicitor the other day which made her worried. I have spent £3000 so far and he has only just signed the avidavit. Part of me would like to push for a 55:45 in my favour to at least cover my costs.
What do you think please advise.

Stressedandsad,

Go for it, I say. However, as you point out that you have spent £3k already to get to a signed petition, do you think he will go for that? I agree that his nonsense has cost you dearly. I guess it depends on your mediators skills!

Best of luck on Thursday - don't get stressed out!

Mike

ps, did you read the thread on mediation?

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...diation/Page-15.html

Thanks Mike I will read this. I am freaking out as I don't want to sit and talk to him - I will cry or want to shout at him for being such a @@@@.
I would be quite happy to not see him again. I guess it is a case of face your fears and live your dreams!
My mediator doesn't look that ruthless.