Thanks for the reassurance everyone - the issues i need sorting out now are as follows
1) get further legal aid
2) Get a Consent Order for the house (i think thats what it is called)
3) get the non molestation order
4) get the property and deed in my name
5) get the Clean Break order
6) celebrate when i see him with nothing ahahahha
i know number six sounds cruel but ive had enough of the upset and stress of this
Rather than celebrate when he has nothing can I suggest that you look more positively and thank him/her for getting togehter and doing you what is in effect the biggest favour anyone can have done you - got you out of a loveless marriage and away from the unfunctionable part of your life and giving you your future!! (Guess who been to counselling!!)
i know that sounds cruel but i have been through hell with this person, and ive had him threaten to leave me with nothing and vowed then that i will do my upmost to move on with my life and i have done, i am a stronger person who has got a lot to offer someone.
but he has no right to threaten me and carry on as he has done, this is all becuase he no longer has control over me and i was then one who got myself out of that marriage not him,
i dont mean to come across as agressive etc but i feel very strongly about some of the things that have happened in my life and i am very proud that i got out and have moved on and am trying to build myself and my life back up
Button, you have every right to be proud of yourself for getting away from this man and getting your life back. I think Taylr is suggesting that you thank his new partner for taking him off your hands, not that you are aggressive. It is always hard when you try to get away from someone controlling, and your ex seems to be a particularly awful specimen. I hope things are going a bit better for you now.
ok im back with even more problems..... My divorce has come through ok. but my ex is now immigrating to New Zealand, he earns in excess of 30k a year and is still not paying anything on the mortgage since May 07, the mortgage is now going up to 700 a month and i only earn 17500 a year plus i am not living in the property due to the fact i ve been told i will then owe him rent for it and besides i live somewhere else where he dont know where i am
he is now saying he will not remove himself from the mortgage or transfer the deeds. Ive offered him the house if he gives me the money ive paid out to date which is totalling over 7500 pounds in exchange i will walk away and he will have the house worth 120k
either that or i will stop the payment and let it get repossesed which will also cause both of us problems in the future
he has blatently stated that he has been passed through immigration and he doesnt care
i dont know what else to do - my solicitor says i have limited legal aid and we should be able to sort this out. Why should i be bullied in to losing out when my ex isnt paying a thing and driving a flash car and then going to live in new zealand when im left with all the hassle and head ache
its getting me down and causing me stress - help what can i do?