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08 Mar 08 #16154 by chester
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hi guys, need advice from people not involved.
Found out a week ago my husband had been cheating for a year. Been together 20. 2.5 years ago we started the process of purchasing a property in spain. Because it was a new buid it was ready last september after a number of delays. Due topaperwork we still have not completed.
It may be possible to walk away, lose 30k deposit but thats gone anyway, and forget it ever happened.
My xtb wants us to go ahead and then share the cost of the mortgage. Financially this is ok for me but I don't know if I can handle it emotionally. I can't bear the thought of him aking his new partner there. We have also purchased furniture which would have to be sold.
My gut feeling is to walk away, but is this good financially.
sory its so long
any advice will be appreciated

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08 Mar 08 #16156 by IKNOWNOW
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Hi Chester, my gut tells me to say walk away. 20 years of marriage is a lot of memories but emotionally I think it would be heart wrenching to remain with this purchase. I know £30K is a lot to lose but I think your long term sanity is much more important. This will mean you will always have ties with him financially which I personally do not think is a good thing.

Could he not continue the purchase with his new partner?

Only you know how you really feel about this situation but think long and hard as it is a major decision to be making and it sounds as if it is one that is fairly urgent.

Wishing you the best, Chester,

Regards Sarah

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08 Mar 08 #16161 by chester
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Hi Sarah,
thanks for that. He can't afford to go ahead with it. I was thinking about it but think it would be too hard financially.
I don't think he appreciates how hard it would be. If I can walk away I will.
Its just walking away from a dream.

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