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23 May 12 #332510 by somuch2know2
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what farks me off the most is I gave a reasonable off to settle- hers was just a waste of time.. There was no give or take.. it was take take take. I told my solicitor not even to respond. I am looking forward to FH. As I think she really believes she will get this.

Also from my understanding CM is based around CSA rules unless a private agreement is made

I will pay what is obligated 25% but anything more past their 18th will be at my discretion. I am not paying for them to go on a year holiday

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23 May 12 #332513 by happyagain
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Whilst I think your ex is living in cloud cuckoo land, I also think you''re still some way off accepting what a judge would think is fair.
Your assets and income are significantly greater than my husbands, yet in his divorce he got an 80/20 split on the FMH but not payable for 13 years until youngest is 18. He kept all the debt, which was equivalent to 6 months net salary. He did not get stung for SM but that was only as he didn''t really earn enough.
Getting your money now to pay back joint debt doesn''t always work in court.

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23 May 12 #332514 by sillywoman
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CSA is paid until their 19th birthday unless at work or at uni.

It can be ordered that CSA is paid until completion of first degree.

More than half your pension - i dont think so.

You know you did wrong - you accept you did wrong, but you cannot be made to suffer for ever. It is not healthy for your wife.

You need to help her get a start in her new life, but thats about it.

As you know I am working full time now - child benefit and a small amount of WTC and CSA, but I love being independent.

You will be doing her no favours to financially support her forever

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23 May 12 #332516 by somuch2know2
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I am very realistic to the outcomes which is why I have done the maths. With her propsal there is a massive difference in incomes and outgoings yet her working hours are on 12 (with capability to do more) and mine are 52 per week. I am aware i can take on the debt- and I am fine with that, I am aware I could come out with nothing at moment due to mesher- also fine. But what I cant do is take all the dent and give her all. There is no point in working.

What I have wanted is a fair deal... not 50/50 fair as that is optimistic, but fair to the kids, fair to her and fair to me to all start over. Her offer is a joke and a waste of money for me as my solicitor had to read it. This is sooooooo far off from any suggestions other has said. I will just go to FH an see what happens as I can see now FDR will be an utter waste of time and money

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23 May 12 #332522 by timetoheal
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SMTK2 There is a reason why your solicitor is hesitant (I am going back to original post)

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23 May 12 #332539 by somuch2know2
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??? Hesitant? This just came in?

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24 May 12 #332573 by somuch2know2
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Have digested over night and need advice.
She says she cant move out of town centre due to schooling, but the areas submitted by myself are all in the catchment area of the schools my children already attend??

In her particulars a 3 bed was indicated aas suitable- now she is saying a 4 bed is ''needed''?

She is trying to portay me as frivalous stating holidays overseas that were paid, and proven as such by my GF. Over the past 6 months I have spent 700£ on myself?? There is nothing in the bank or credit card statements to prove this otherwise?

She is saying that because the credit card is in my sole name she is not accountable- even though it has always been, throughout the whole of the marriage, and the shopping is clearly hers?

She refuses to believe the letter from HR stating my yearly bonus (or lack of) and insists and a large chunk of potential future bonues FOR LIFE?

She says she cant work more than 12 hours, but also can not take on part time education to become fully qualified as a teacher. She wants SM for life- at the age of 41

Worst case- leaves the small equity I get from the house paying of all marital debt but leaving me with 0 to repurchase. I am then off the ladder and after all fixed cost I am left with 1400 for the month, my wife after the same fixed costs are taken is left with 3,700.

She wants me to pay CM until the finish a 1st degree (including a gap year).. I can not afford to do ths and I want to be sure I am not enforced to. I was lead to believe CM is dealt with by CSA- how do I push that anything above and beyond CSA will be at my discretiona and ability to pay?

I am just dumb founded that they even sent this? It was a waste of paper and i know the FDR will be the same.

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