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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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19 Apr 12 #325049 by rasher
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You are in the thick of it and emotions tend to run high at this point - not the easiest of times to be negotiating. Its no comfort, but if people are used to a higher standard of living it doesn''t necessarily make it easier to accept the impact of the divorce and neither of you will see it as fair as you both are losing out - the math is simple two households dont live as cheaply as one. Is all your negotiating via proffs or do you talk together about anything?

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19 Apr 12 #325052 by sillywoman
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ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, you really shouldn''t expect your children to totally change their ways because you want more money for yourself!

This attitude will really distance your kids.

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19 Apr 12 #325058 by happyagain
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So much, you seem to be getting a hard time here. I don''t see why! Your wife has more money for 4 than she did for5 . She works very part-time. She has a cleaning lady. And one of her children is about to leave home.
By paying csa you are providing for the children. Anything else will ultimately end up as your wife''s. I doubt she will offer them 30% of her assets when they leave home because she got extra when you split on behalf of them.
I think you''re getting a hard time because you had an affair. That is not right, you should not have to live in penury because of this.
When my husband left I was working part-time. My kids were 3 and 2 months (and very ill) . I went out and got a full-time job to increase my income and provide for my children.
One source of friction in my husbands first marriage is that his wife refused to work more than a few hours per week. This was not ''sanctioned''. Ultimately her refusal to recognise the financial side of things was one reason they broke up.

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19 Apr 12 #325063 by sillywoman
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I think somuch and his wife have all their emotions tangled up, financial etc. etc.

When the dust settles I think things will be better, but in the meantime huge legal costs are racking up.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to put the financial wranglings aside for a while.

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19 Apr 12 #325077 by MrsMathsisfun
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I too think somuch is getting a hard time.

If you read his original posts he will say that one of the reasons he wanted to leave the marriage was because of his wifes lack of understanding of how much of a burden he was finding trying to financially support the family in the lifestyle his wife insisted on.

Why should somuch have to continue working 15hr days when his wife is only prepared to work 12hrs.

Somuch isnt expecting his wife to work full time, just during school hours which she could as its my understanding she works in a school.

Both parents are responsible for the children and that should include being financially responsible.

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19 Apr 12 #325080 by sillywoman
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Whatever, she doesnt have many skills and therefore whatever she does is going to earn a low income and the kids income will go.

Unfortunately, he has been a brilliant provider, but he has a wife and 3 children and they must be provided for. Thats life.

There is no way on earth a man earning £84000 per annum is going to get away without handing over a chunk of his income. Fact.

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19 Apr 12 #325084 by MrsMathsisfun
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And so much is prepared to pay up until the youngest leaves home.

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