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soon to be ex wife says i removed all my chattels

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25 Apr 12 #326397 by warphil
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Hi all advise needed please,

my soon to be ex-wife says i have removed all my chattels from the former MH (which was and still is only in her name).

i have been requesting the items in question for over 4 months and get the same response, which is that i removed all my chattels etc.

i never, i am trying to recover my 8 yr old daughters high sleeper bed and footon sleeper and bedroom furniture back, also my parents gave us a very expensive garden bench for our wedding gift, as the marriage is v short i have been led to believe that each would keep the presents from each side of the family? there are other items but i will not list all.

my question is if discussions through solicitors hits a brick wall, where do i go now? can i make a claim for the items in the small claims court? does it have to be in the city we lived in or the city i live in now?

I have phoned wiltshire police and asked if they would be willing to attend with me but they are not forth coming, they say they have no resource for this.

its very frustrating its like you can get robbed blind and no one cares, i know its only some possessions but some of them belong to an 8yr old girl who is upset badly that her step mother of 2yrs threw us out without a 2nd thought. How do i now tell her that she cant have her stuff back?

any advise would be gratefully received.

thanks in advance

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25 Apr 12 #326401 by LittleMrMike
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I know this is not going to be what you want to hear, but most solicitors will advise that normally personal chattels are not worth arguing about, in that it is perhaps easier and maybe even cheaper to replace them than get solicitors arguing about them at £200 per hour plus VAT,

I recall my own divorce and the day the van called to remove most of what had been our furniture. I knew they had to go, because they were too big for my new flat. But it was lovely furniture, and I was sorry to see it go. My home help was appalled when she saw how little I had left.

That was in 1968, and it was only recently that I woke up and thought about that furniture, and suddenly, I decided - so she thought she could take away my lovely furniture, did she ? I''ll show her ! and scoured the antique shops and bought some second hand furniture which was really interesting, some real conversation pieces, and which fit my little flat. Really, I have no issues with my ex, she died in January, but I was just sorry I didn''t think of replacing the furniture with others in the same style before. I''ve had so much pleasure from my new stuff.

LMM

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25 Apr 12 #326464 by warphil
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Hi LMM,

I agree they are not worth much but its the look on my daughters face when i say her step mum will not let me collect her bed etc. So i was looking to see if there is another way without using solicitors playing tennis and racking up an huge bill.

thanks for sharing your story, hopefully i will get to a point when i also do not have any issues with my wife i am nowhere near that position currently and am desperately trying not to let emotions take over and do something real silly.

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25 Apr 12 #326470 by cookie2
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warphil wrote:

i was looking to see if there is another way without using solicitors playing tennis and racking up an huge bill.

You might not like this suggestion but it''s an alternative to solicitor tennis. Playing that game could cost you say £1000. So why not say to your ex, "I will give you £300 cash in hand for these items ..."? Or some other value that you think she will accept? You''ll probably end up paying over the odds but keep in mind the other choices, either write the items off, get a big sol bill, or just buy new items. Which is the cheaper option for you?

They say you cannot put a price on sentimental items but that is not true. No matter how evil your ex is, there will be a figure at which her greed will overtake her spite. The trick is finding that figure.

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25 Apr 12 #326473 by warphil
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now thats something that never crossed my mind :)will give it a go. Will contact a mutual friend tonight after work and start the ball rolling.

Thanks Cookie

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