I have Aspergers, a registered disability, one of the consequences of such is that one cannot cope with change.
My wife left me and the children 2 years ago. When she realised the house wouldn''t get sold while the children were with me; she instigated their removal. She didn''t want them though, after turning them against me (and herself) social services put them with extended family.
With the children out of the way she upped the ante in getting the divorce settled wanting half the money from the house, the car and half of all money I had when she left. (basically what I''ve been living on so the pot is fast running out; around £3k left.)
Not only do I have Aspergers, I''m also suffering from depression and chronic fatigue. I take two different anti-depressants and have weekly sessions with a psychotherapist along with visits to an Aspergers specialist.
I am 52 on ESA with the DLA going through the motions. I have no prospect of ever earning again.
She is 37 and living in a much better area with her new partner.
The house is owned outright. I put it in joint names when we bought it for convenience if I should die. It is worth around £150k. The car is worth only around £1k. I also have a motorhome worth around £10k which I rent out in the summer months (no bookings this year though, so far). The business only ever grosses around £2k (every little helps)
Throughout our marriage of 15 years I always supported my wife financially, she never had to work. I owned a flat in London for 9 years before we met which is basically what paid for the house.
Any advice. I really can''t cope with selling the house for practical, physical and emotional reasons (and financial of course). I couldn''t cope with the move, the packing. I couldn''t cope with living somewhere else.
One thing you can do to buy yourself some time and have real evidence is to get your doctors to produce a full medical report of your condition and your current mental health including their objective opinion on your ability to cope with moving and change and the reasons for your depression, how long you have suffered from depression and so on.