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18 May 12 #331464 by newtricks
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The house is for sale but there is no interest.

I have had 2 threatening letters from his solicitor re selling house within 6 weeks. how am i supposed to do that? ( i am to house his son who is 18.) i got 4 valuations from estate agents. 2 of whom we are selling house with. All a similar price to the asking price.

he threatens to take me to court. can he get the price of the house reduced so drastically that it will be grossly undervalued?

i am actively trying to sell the house. i want to change estate agents to see if another agent could do better. Ex will not communicate with me direct i have to go through his solicitor. Can i change estate agents without his permission as i have had no answer via his solicitor? i think this is childish. His son will be having an operation soon. Am i to tell his solicitor how he is??? no surprise they do not speak anymore.

i will be so glad to sell this house and move on. i am so fed up of being bullied by a selfish ex who has refuesed to pay for his son for the last 3 years.

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18 May 12 #331473 by cookie2
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Do you have a Consent Order signed? What does it say about the house, the timescale, price, and what happens if it doesn''t sell?


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Ex will not communicate with me direct i have to go through his solicitor.

You could always give him exactly what he has asked for. Send his solicitor each of the valuations you have received, one at a time, with a letter. Send weekly progress updates. Send a notification of every potential buyer who visits and every phone call with the estate agents. Yes, ask the solicitor to pass on messages about his son. It will only cost you the price of a few stamps but his solicitor bills will skyrocket.

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18 May 12 #331474 by epitome title
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Hi Newtricks

regarding marketing the house, you say the valuations are similar to what it is on the market for now, have you done some research into prices of similar properties in your area? On rightmove or zoopla you can see what similar houses in your area have actually sold for. Are you getting any viewings? If so, you will be in the right price range but does the house need updating/de personalising?

Presumably you are both on the house title, in which case you will need his signature on the instruction form to change estate agents.

Are you represented by a solicitor? If not, have you replied to his solicitor telling him/her that the house is on the market and you are willing to sell but to do that, you obviously need to attract a buyer?

With regards to your ex''s relationship with his son, if he is not interested, don''t waste your emotion worrying about whether you should update him about the operation, if he wants to know, he will find out. All you can do is be there for your son and try not to badmouth his Dad, your son is an adult and will make his own mind up, it is a shame that your ex has not made any contribution towards your son''s upbringing but I know from experience (my son''s father never had anything to do with him - favouring our daughter) that as long as he knows his mum is there for him, that is the security he needs right now to help him recover from his operation.

My son and I eat value beans regularly but the atmosphere in our house without the bullying ex there is more than worth it.

Good luck to you and do some research on house prices and remember you do not allow your ex to bully you, so don''t let his solicitor do it either

Best wishes

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19 May 12 #331623 by newtricks
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hi

Thank you so much for your replies. i actually found it quite upsetting ( i cant explain why)

i am not represented by a solicitor any more. i thought he was incompetent. At the final hearing he included a letter in the bundle that that referred to what the judge at the FDR recommended. The FH was changed to FDR. the judge said he didnt know how a lawyer could do that.

My ex''s solicitor sent his financial info at 17.00 hours the evening before the FH. I later found out that there was no income info for him. his statements though dated 28 may only had transactions up to end of apr. none of these points were made known to the judge. the FH was 1st June. i went to the ombudsman who i think were a waste of time. they said i should receive an apology.

I feel so badly let down by the so called "experts"

I will look at other similar homes in the area.

Thank you again and good luck to you too.

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19 May 12 #331625 by newtricks
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we are not getting any viewings unfortunately. I dont have much faith in the estate agents. thats why i wanted to change.

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19 May 12 #331626 by epitome title
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Hi

Sounds like you are going through a tough time what with the final hearing being reverted to an FDR, are you going to self represent when you get another appointment?

So guessing now that although the stbx''s solicitor is hounding you to get the house sold, you are not under any Order or timescale to do so?

If that is the case, once you have had a look at similar properties and what they are being marketed for and had a look to see what prices are actually being realised, my way of thinking would be to first of all speak to the agents you have the property on with, you may find that if it is not in line with what you find out with your research, that the agents are a bit bored of the house too - by that I mean - if they are not getting any viewings, in effect they have nothing to work with. I would suggest you ask them for their ideas, should you either do up the house a bit? drop the price and hold out for a realistic price? hold an open day?

look hard at whatever feedback you have received from previous viewings. Unfortunately a house is only worth what someone is prepared to pay for it and if yours has been on the market for some time, potential buyers will have already seen it and for whatever reason discounted it from their viewings list. The answer is to take a hard look and work out why your house is not getting viewings and no offers and either change that or review the price accordingly.

I would certainly suggest that the agents (if you have to stick with who you are with) take new pictures and if you do adjust the price, ask them to deal with it as if it were a new property they had just taken on.

Ask if all the negotiators could come round and have a re-look at it, some of them may never have actually been in your house and if that is the case, how can they "sell" a viewing to a potential purchaser if they have not seen it themselves. then get them to ring it round and see if they can drum up some interest. maybe an open day or price it differently, ie offers over or price guide

I can''t advise you legally but I have worked as an Estate Agent - I know, I know, but I loved it, I love houses and like people, it was an ideal job for me except the fact that I worked soooo many hours and I needed to spend time with my children (my stbx and I had split up for the first time at that time) we are finally going for divorce.

Anyway, what I have described above is how I would deal with a house which its marketing thereof had for want of a better expression, gone stale.

Also, when you have had viewings, did you show people round or did you let the agent do it? If you have always done it, show the agent round like you would a potential buyer, ask their opinion of what you have told them, sometimes an element of why you are moving or having to move comes across instead of painting a picture of why the potential buyer should buy it.

Try to remove the emotion as to why you are moving and look at it the way the likes of Kirsty and Phil look at selling a property and do your homework, review your feedback, speak to your agent, decide whether you are going to decorate, de clutter, de personalise (I would recommend doing that anyway) or whether you are going to reduce the price - you may have to do both but if you do, I guarantee you will sell

All the best, take the control back and look forward to your future in a new home

Kind regards

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19 May 12 #331629 by hawaythelads
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Hands up ....who knew the House Doctor was getting divorced ;)
All the best
HRH xx

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