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unconventional housing needs post seperation

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06 Jun 12 #335444 by twilight59
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I am filling out my form E and need to indicate future housing costs.

We lived in a 3 bed house, with 2 reception rooms, one of which was my home office as I work 90% from home.

As I travel the other 10% and work long hours at times, I was going to have an au-pair for childcare (as its cheaper than nurserys on long hrs)

but this means I either need a 4 bed house (1 for me, 1 for little one, 1 for au-pair and 1 home office) or a 3 bed with a room I can use bedroom or not.

This is pushing up my rent cost - and I am worried the judge will think I am ''''greedy'''' and taking to mick with my housing costs...

has anyone been in a similar scenario, any advice??

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07 Jun 12 #335460 by LittleMrMike
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Every case depends on its own facts. If you have a particular type of job that has special needs and requirements, then you need what is necessary to enable you to do your job. If you need a car, it''s reasonable for you to have one. If you need an office, it''s reasonable for you to have that.
From the point of view of your ex, or your ex to be, the fact that you are working reduces his potential liabilities regarding, for example, spousal maintenance. So it could make a lot of sense from his point of view to give you what you need to carry on working.
Excuse me if this seems a teeny weeny bit cynical, but I''d say that the fact that your needs may be unusual does not necessarily mean they are not justified. I''d claim them and be prepared to justify them.
As a matter of interest my '' office '' doubles up as my bedroom , but my flat has hardly enough space to swing a cat.

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07 Jun 12 #335463 by WYSPECIAL
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Is it worth discussing with your ex first? They may argue that the need for office space is not a housing need but a business need and therefore your housing need is only £xx. You could end up arguing for ages and spending a lot of money on one small point.

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07 Jun 12 #335464 by Forseti
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Likewise, LMM; but I''m sure the cat is grateful.

Just be sure the au pair doesn''t become an additional bone of contention. The ex may raise concerns about suitable CRB checks, or suggest that, since you are not caring for the children, he should have residence, etc. You know how it goes.

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07 Jun 12 #335528 by cookie2
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Many people use the "future needs" section of the form E as a "wish list". This is not the case.

How would you react if your ex put down something similar? That he wanted to work from home, needed a child bedroom for overnight contact, and needed a spare bedroom for his mother to stay when she visits - therefore claiming a need for a 4 bed house? Reasonable?

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