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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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Claiming for lost assets on divorce?

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25 Jun 12 #339008 by cookie2
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Your chances of getting her to give you some of her savings to compensate you for depreciation in the value in your house, are totally negligible. Why should SHE pay out HER savings just because YOUR property went down in value? How did that suddenly become her fault? As for loss of rent during that period, forget it too.

Yes I would say if she is prepared to let you keep your £100k and not make a spousal maintenance claim then you should certainly get that signed and sealed before she changes her mind. It''s the best deal you''ll get.

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25 Jun 12 #339012 by JamesLondon
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So a verbal agreement to buy a family home has no weight at all?

The reason I lost £50k was her subsequent refusal to buy a family home and the housing markets then after 2009 recovered.

So I really should be concerned about her making a claim for spousal maintenance????

She earns 20k more than me and is a single child to parents who are worth millions. She has no long term financial worries.

I am worried that I may never be able to afford a place of my own and pay for children that I never see.

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25 Jun 12 #339017 by cookie2
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So a verbal agreement to buy a family home has no weight at all?

Not worth the paper it''s written on mate.

The reason I lost £50k was her subsequent refusal to buy a family home and the housing markets then after 2009 recovered.

No, the reason you lost £50k is because you sold when the housing market was low. The house was in your name. Did you have a gun to your head?

So I really should be concerned about her making a claim for spousal maintenance????

Well, she has a higher income than you so such a claim might not get very far. But in theory yes she could do it. She could for example, get pregnant from a 1-night stand and give up work to look after the baby as a single mother. Then she would have a much bigger SM claim against you. It would make sense for you to take the Clean Break now rather than wait for things to change. It''s very unlikely that things would get any better for you.

I am worried that I may never be able to afford a place of my own and pay for children that I never see.

Dude you''ve got £100k in the bank and earn £30k. I am sure there are plenty of people in this country who would give their right arm to be in your position.

As for child contact well that is a separate issue. Why are you being denied contact? Are both children yours (just asking since you say your marriage was 4.5 years but child is 6)?

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25 Jun 12 #339021 by JamesLondon
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Okay so I accept the Clean Break. Thanks for the advice. The ex has another year of work guaranteed and after that it is likely that she will be made redundant so now is the time to make the agreement on the idea that it will stop any future claims for Spousal maintenance.

Contact, I was offered supervised contact with any friend or relative to supervise and I refused. The wife and her solicitors were happy to accept that outcome.

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25 Jun 12 #339035 by cookie2
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it is likely that she will be made redundant so now is the time to make the agreement

Yes definitely, do it ASAP!

Contact, I was offered supervised contact with any friend or relative to supervise and I refused. The wife and her solicitors were happy to accept that outcome.

Why didn''t you accept? Wouldn''t it have been better than what you''ve got now (nothing)?

Fighting through courts for contact is generally a waste of time and money. Very few people come out of that kind of case happy.

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25 Jun 12 #339039 by JamesLondon
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Accepting supervised access when you know there is no good reason for it???

Better to just walk away then to lose sight of the truth.

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25 Jun 12 #339041 by cookie2
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That''s your choice. Maybe not being a father I can''t understand it as well as you. But personally I would say supervised contact is better than NO contact.

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