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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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Retaining gifted money from before marriage??

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29 Jun 12 #339872 by Jemima77
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I can see what you''re saying...

However, my current salary + package (and also my future earning potential) is far far lower than his salary + package. The reason I put in so much money at the outset was due to the hope/intention of starting a family following our wedding. The expectation on both sides was that once that happened he would be supporting us financially so seemed fair for me to put in more money at the time...

He pays a lot of his salary into his pension every month and had kept all his savings tied away in shares etc... Would I be entitled to a share in his assets - would they also need to go in the pot??? I just want what''s fair...

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29 Jun 12 #339879 by sexysadie
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You would be entitled to a share in his assets. So you could trade them off against each other, if possible in mediation without going to court.

Best wishes,
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29 Jun 12 #339892 by cookie2
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The OP''s latest post appears to be a duplicate of the previous one...

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30 Jun 12 #340044 by Jemima77
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Sorry - I''m new to this!

When I said ''fair'' (and I agree it''s very subjective under such circumstances!), what I meant was that I wouldn''t want to go for his money on the understanding that he wouldn''t go for mine. The sale of the house would be the opportunity to get out what I put in, and likewise for him. Our finances have got really messy... Mediation could be the answer, if he is willing to be ''reasonable'' (I guess that''s another subjective word!)

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30 Jun 12 #340049 by sexysadie
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If you go to mediation it''s a chance to sort out the messiness of your finances without it costing too much - so go for it if you can. The mediator should help you both think reasonably.

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