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Mesher !! please explain this term

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01 Aug 12 #346777 by amefbi
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Have read on various post about ''''Mersher'''' or the ''''term of Mesher''''

What is this term of agreement when it comes to finances?

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01 Aug 12 #346786 by hadenoughnow
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A mesher order is usually used where there are children to be housed and it is not possible to release equity from the house. It means that one party has a charge on the property and they get their share when a trigger event happens. This may be the youngest child reaching 18, remarriage or cohabitation for more than six months.

In your case the appropriate order to consider would be a Martin Order which AFAIK allows you to remain in a property for your lifetimewhereupin it would revert to the ex.

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02 Aug 12 #346845 by amefbi
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Hahaha, thx for making me laugh..I had to google the meaning of AFAIK in your post.
English is not my 1st language :)

Yes no children so no Mesher then. thx for clarifying this for me.

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02 Aug 12 #346900 by hadenoughnow
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This may help

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/media/kunena/a...ing_wiki_options.doc

Bear in mind though that if the house if too big for your needs, you may be expected to downsize. I know you have mentioned your disability before. If the current home is adapted for your needs, that may have some bearing.

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02 Aug 12 #346910 by amefbi
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Fact is this FH is to big and I really dont mind living in 1 room only. Its to big for him as well and he travels 50miles to work.

Its common sence that I could/would stay in the house if all our Financial circumstances and other issues is taken into consideration.

Thx, this link is not working :(.. will try again later might be just temporary.

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02 Aug 12 #346912 by hadenoughnow
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try this

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Advice...wing-separation.html

or look at the top of the property and mortgages section where is is stickied.

What is the size of the property? How would you manage to maintain it if you were there on your own? Is moving to a one bed property adapted for your needs an option that can be considered?

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02 Aug 12 #346943 by amefbi
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Its 3 bed,made costly adaptions to suit my needs, now 2bed changed 1 room, no bath anymore, only walk-in shower, lifted toilet,no carpets downstairs at all. Cant see a couple and kids will want to stay here.

He has never, ever paid or maintained our properties. I have been and paid for this till 2008/9. I have no more savings and currently the house needs work done before it can be sold.

Mortgage payments is £750, 11 yrs left, renting any property will be at least £700?, with a bathroom and Bath I cannot use? And use ''public funding''

I am really not on refenge or want to score, Im just trying to use my common sence and no emotional feelings but have leant a lot about this Divorce proceedings, So glad I got this site. Thx

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