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I am sorry but that is just life. Things change. Just because my ex cheated on me, why should my dreams of having kids and a happy family life go up in smoke? That is just what happens when relationships fail. Sorry.
Just because he has left for some tart why should my dreams for my childrens future, that only a year ago were shared dreams, go up in smoke.
Apply for maintenance pending suit. Is he paying child maintenance? If not then apply for that too. There are plenty of things you can do. I am sorry to have to be the bad man who tells you this, I really don''t like telling people things they don''t want to hear. But your ex is under no obligation to help you move or to finance a new house. Your housing needs are met, You don''t NEED to move... you WANT to move.
Stbx has already stopped paying his half of the mortgage and I am struggling with it alone already. What am I supposed to do?
Dont panic but you also cant walk before you can run.
Your parents want to help could they possibly have a part share of the property you buy this can all be done legally through a Deed of Trust and Restriction via the land registry, their money would therefore be protected. Although if you move before finances are officially sorted this in theory shows your housing needs are met and may reduce your need???!!!
Don''t give up on your dreams but there are two many unknowns at the moment. Five miles should not be a problem regarding contact which is good and having free family childcare available could certainly help when it comes to work.
What does a 3 bed cost where you are now compared to one near where your parents live?
As I said above, if you cannot afford the mortgage and your ex refuses to help, you should apply for maintenance pending suit.
what then happens if I cannot afford the mortgage