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8 months 3 weeks ago #509427 by SourceUnknown
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So cut a long story short, I've applied for a divorce...she's signed the first stage and I'm waiting on the paperwork.

In the meantime we both live in a house that has been 100% funded by me, everything is in my name as she couldn't be part of the mortgage due to bad credit. It's still my home where I live, all my stuff is there but we are in separate bedrooms. And I know the fact she didn't contribute a bean has nothing on the financial [url=Resources/Library/Cohabitation-and-Separation_s33_m1852.html ]separation[/url] but that's not the issue at hand.

The problem is I work abroad sometimes and my stipulation is she can have her relationships but I do not want her men staying at my home. I've agreed to the same, but low and behold I go away and my son calls me to tell me the new man is staying with his dogs...she knows I hate dogs haha

I believe legally I can apply for an injunction to prevent that, seeing as it's still my home and I haven't left right? I'll be calling my solicitor of course, and now I need to cut my work away short to go and deal with this. I don't want to be seen as accepting of this arrangement and lose my right to fight for my right to live at my home without her having boyfriends over to stay...like I have never had my new girlfriend of 2 years back to my property either.

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8 months 3 weeks ago #509432 by Steven Wade
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It's unlikely you will find legal remedy here.

In the eyes of the law the man could be absolutely anyone and your wife (ex) is entitled to invite anyone into her home unhindered.

It's not relevant who contributed to paying the mortgage during the marriage either incidentally - it won't be factor considered if/when the court makes a decision on the division of assets.

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8 months 3 weeks ago #509433 by SourceUnknown
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Thanks, so I could be made to endure them staying over the night in my home?

Yeah I know about the financial side, that's a gutter enough but I knew that from my solicitor. I was just hoping I could get reprive from some strange men sleeping over in my home that I still live in.

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8 months 3 weeks ago #509436 by Allcry
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Well what is happening is that hse is trying to upset you so that she can evict you from your house. Expect more of the same.

If she is the primary carer of your son the house is likely to be hers, on divorce, until your son is 18.

however, in the financial order, you can ask that if she is living with a partner (not man), then that will trigger a sale of the house.

Also, you might actually just make a note of the agreement and breaches of it, hopefully, written down, and the incidents are written down. A not book is fine. Try from now on to have agreements written and signed, if not acknowledged in writing.

You don't need to say anything to her. If the property is damaged by dogs, take a note.

Why? She wants to get you out sooner by your losing your temper, or giving up.

Get prepared for more fun and games like this. The goal is to piss you off so that she can kick you out sooner.

How can you combat this?

1. Apply for the residence of your son and her to have some overnights of your son. (invites strange ment to stay the night)

2. Call social services. Tell them your concerns.

Good luck

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