Hi, in terms of that I am wishing to carry out the divorce under “Unreasonable Behaviour” as this is the only category that we can fall in to, I was wondering if you could help me to say how this is, and for it to be valid in court. We have lived under the same roof but have lived separate lives for over 3 years. There is no communication between us and she behaves as though I am invisible. We have separate social lives. She does not care for me, does not provide meals for me, and generally does not care. Sometimes there are days and I do not see her as she spends most of her time at her friend’s house or other family members’ homes. I cannot continue living in this environment as I consider it as unreasonable. Neither of us behave as husband and wife.
Hello, thank you very much for your reply, but we have not lived apart for this period. we have both lived in the same house, but behave invisible towards each other, so I am not sure if i can apply for "living apart for 2 years" as we have lived under the same roof, but not together. We have not shared a bedroom for the entire period.
Its possible to be separated but still live under the same roof, providing you don''t share the same bed (ie have intimate relations with each other), do any household chores for or with each other, ie cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc etc and have led separate lives for that period; which from what you have said, is what you have been doing.
What Ruby was suggesting is an application based on two years separation by consent, not all judges accept them when you live together but if you have lived separate lives even under the same roof often the are.
Anyway UB, often we read things like lack of communication, lack of intimacy, separate social lives, feeling unloved, one works to much, spends time with a hobby rather than the spouse, arguments, maybe even swearing, hurtful comments, the list is endless.
If you can write it with your ex, agree it in other words.