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7 years 4 weeks ago #408656 by rubytuesday
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Sorry I haven''t gotten back to you, work was very busy - I have started on this, and will post later today.

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7 years 4 weeks ago #408659 by rubytuesday
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The respondent has since XXX date continually isolated himself from family life and refuses to attempt to participate in family life leaving the petitioner feeling abandoned and isolated. (are you able to provide an example of this ie refusing to attend a family celebration)

Since XX date/Recently, the respondent has been unable to engage in constructive communication with the petitioner , resorting to accusations and bringing up the past, and this leaves the petitioner feeling disrespected.

Recently, the respondent has refused to do any domestic chores for the family even when the petitioner has been at work all day and the respondent has been at home all day, leaving the petitioner with the sole burden of the domestic chores. This has left the petitioner feeling unappreciated and exhausted.

Recently, the respondent continually tells the petitioner that she should seek medical help for mental health issues which she does not have, [inset recent example here]. These mind games have left the petitioner feeling aggrieved and upset.

Recently, The petitioner and respondent do not appear to have any common interests and do not socialise together, instead the respondent preferring to go out socialising on his own and without inviting the petitioner to join him making the petitioner feel neglected and lonely.



It is considered bad form to cite poor parenting skills (or perceived poor parenting skills) in a divorce petition , and again, the respondent’s unreasonable behaviour must be examples of his behaviour towards you; which is why you can''t use the example about his behaviour towards your friends.

You haven''t mentioned how your intimate relationship with the respondent is - usually a lack of one is something that is used in a UB petition; so if this is a factor, then you may wish to use something like:

The Petitioner has not enjoyed an intimate or affectionate relationship with the Respondent since XXX date and have slept separately since that date. This has left the Petitioner feeling rejected and unattractive.

You will need to use dates within tha last 6 months of you having lived together as husband and wife, and provide examples of the behaviours where you can. While I understand that you are trying to keep the examples "mild", you have to consider that what the court will accept and what your husband will find acceptable ate two completely different things. He always has the option to disagree with the examples you have used, but still consent to the divorce in his D10 (acknowledgement of service).

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7 years 4 weeks ago #408660 by driven40
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Thanks yes we haven''t had an internet relationship so I will put that one

Can I put things such as refusing to participate in family birthdays and Christmas activities and social gatherings making me feel isolated from family and friends?

Also how best is it to word about his dislike for me to have friends and socialise with them as he feels and says that nobody needs friends as I do feel this is important as my friends now won''t come to the house in case he is in and we have to arrange to phone or meet when he is not around ? I have a lot of friends and feel that they are important to me and help me through things

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7 years 4 weeks ago #408661 by rubytuesday
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internet relationship? :s

Refusing to participate in family birthdays etc is already covered in the first paragraph in my post above.

Re the friends thing, you could write something like "The Respondent has made it clear to the petitioner that he disapproves of her friends, and has it clear that they are not welcome at the family home, thus preventing her from being able to enjoy friendships, and leaving the petitioner feeling increasingly isolated"

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7 years 4 weeks ago #408684 by driven40
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Thanks sorry for not reading it properly my brain feels like it is in overdrive trying to take in the enormous task I have ahead of myself think I just need to sit down and split it up into small tasks and deal with it that way. I am really grateful for your help on this

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