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7 months 2 weeks ago #509890 by Krish_m
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Hi I am filing for divorce on the ground of unreasonable behavior but my wife won't sign.
I would like advice on the following wording as unsure if the court would accept the following:

The Marriage has irretrievably broken down.

1. From January 2018 till the end of the relationship, the petitioner has not enjoyed an intimate or loving relationship with the respondent. This has left the petitioner feeling unloved, extremely negatively towards himself and made him feel very much alone and emasculated.

2. On multiple occasions the respondent refused physical contact with the petitioner, indicating that the petitioner mouth is full of bacteria, leading to feelings of loneliness, rejection and desperation. The respondent believes that marriage is only about companionship but the petitioner is expecting more from a marriage.

3. The petitioner and the respondent have both moved on from the relationship both mentally and physically and have been sleeping separately since January 2018.

4. The petitioner feels unable to engage in discussions with the respondent without the respondent dragging up the past, which the petitioner has become increasingly resentful of and found it draining and completely unreasonable. The past issue relates to the petitioner not having disclosed to the respondent an affair he had well before the petitioner met the respondent.

5. The respondent has refused to communicate on any meaningful level regarding problems in our marriage in the last one year or so. For example, in August 2018 the respondent repeatedly refused my requests to attend counselling in attempt to save our marriage. Over the last six month, the respondent, after going to individual counselling, acknowledged that couple counselling will not save our marriage and it is best to move on in our separate ways.

6. The petitioner and respondent rarely enjoyed time together due to the irregular working hours of the respondent. The respondent also had to work some Saturdays and was volunteering for a couple of hours every Sunday.
The respondent was spending a lot of time watching series on her laptop whenever at home and going to bed late at night, sometimes at dawn. The petitioner was also not giving enough time to the respondent due to him being busy studying for his professional exams.
All of this made it more difficult for the petitioner and the respondent to spend time together and build on their relationship.

7. The petitioner feels that the respondent did not spend enough time looking after the house and contributing to weekly chores. While the respondent feels that the petitioner never appreciated the house work she was doing and always complaining, especially as she never used to do such house chores before marriage.

8. In January 2019, the petitioner's mother while trying to have a conversation with the respondent's family about our marriage problems abused the respondent. This created a big fight between both families. The relationship between both families has completely broken down and both families have not spoken to each other since. This has made things worse between the petitioner and the respondent.

9. For the last six months both the petitioner and the respondent suffered depression. This cause a very unstable relationship and both parties felt they could not rely on each other for support. This created a lot of tension and ill feeling towards one another.

10. The respondent acknowledged that she does not want to start a family with the petitioner due to problems in our marriage.

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7 months 2 weeks ago #509893 by WYSPECIAL
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You've got a lot of examples there. I wouldn't use the ones that are about the petitioner as well. The purpose of the petition is to tell the court about how you, the petitioner, find the respondents behaviour unacceptable.

e.g. 3. The petitioner and the respondent have both moved on from the relationship both mentally and physically and have been sleeping separately since January 2018.

If you use this reword it to something like \"The respondent refuses to sleep in the same bed as the petitioner. This makes the petitioner feel rejected and unloved.

Use less words for the other examples, 1 and 2 could be summed up as \"The respondent refuses to have sex or intimacy with the petitioner. This makes the petitioner feel rejected, lonely and unloved\"

It's a few bullet points to evidence that the marriage is over not a novel.

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7 months 2 weeks ago #509897 by hadenoughnow
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You really only need four or five examples of behaviour in the last six months.

If the Respondent refuses to sign and return the acknowledgement of service but you know (and can prove) it has been received, you can apply for something called deemed service. If necessary a process server may be used to ensure you can prove it has been received.

If this is necessary, you can use the fixed price services offered by this site.


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