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Appropriate wording for "Unreasonable Behaviour" example

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05 Feb 22 #518806 by Time4Action
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Hi all,

Looking to go through a DIY divorce via the "Unreasonable behaviour" option. I'd like it to be as amicable as possible and my wife has even said that she doesn't care what I enter as examples, but obviously I don't want to be unreasonable myself and go over the top.

Here's ONE example (ignore grammar /spelling pls - I will attend to that). Would the following be acceptable for the official(s)?

"General welfare of children: My children have had to witness numerous episodes of their mother's (the respondent) drunken behaviour. It has limited normal familial relationships and already impacted their lives. My daughter is still recovering from an eating disorder which maybe attributable to the events over recent years. There have been incidents whereby the respondent has been at home alone with the children, which have resulted in serious lapses of judgement. Even at the outset of my daughter's eating disorder, the respondent was too drunk to attend the first family counselling session. On occasion the petitioner has returned home to find that the respondent has left food in the hob and/or oven which are slowly burning. Candles have have also been left to burn unsupervised after the respondent goes to bed after getting drunk."

Thanks in advance for any feedback.

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05 Feb 22 #518807 by rubytuesday
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I would advise against using any examples that allege a lack of parenting skills or involvement. The examples of behaviour really need to be about how her behaviour has affected you, so you could use the last part about burning food and unattended candles.

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07 Feb 22 #518818 by Time4Action
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Thank you for the response.

Unfortunately many of the examples reference the children in some way whether it's the fact that they are embarrassed bringing friends home or having to tell their mother not to drive whilst drunk. I'll ensure however that I'm not alleging any lack of parenting skill or lack of involvement somehow.

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