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Off to mediation for the second time today

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23 Jun 09 #125848 by GothGirl
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Not feeling at all positive about it tbh.

My stbx now wants to discuss all child contact issues as well as the financial stuff.

I just want to sort out the financial stuff there and go to family mediation with relate to sort out contact etc. That way the children can voice their own opinions.

Hopefully we'll get down to the 'nitty gritty' stuff today as last time it was a load of old flowery nonsence about what they do and don't do.

I'm considering puttinging a complaint with the mediator about the first appointment, as they told me nothing new about mediation which my solicitor hadn't already explained and I didn't already understand.

Not really the best way forward, but I'd rather get that out of the way. Although I fear I might shoot myself in the foot a little, by making a complaint, who knows.

Wish me luck, will post later about the outcome.

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Hi Lots of luck to you. I am a Mediator myself and I really do believe it is the best way forward for most of us. Hope all goes well x

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23 Jun 09 #125963 by GothGirl
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It went pretty well apart from the fact of my maintenance being halved. Although nothing has been agreed concerning this yet, thats for discussion next time.

We have agreed to exchange a copy of our financial disclosures which isn't a problem for either of us, as we both know what the other has as income and outgoings, so there will be no real surprises there.

Its been a little left up in the air right now and I'm feeling particulary vunerable financially. As I do not have the capacity to earn enough to remain living where I do. I can't make any further cuts to my budget, so I feel in limbo atm and a little stuffed to say the least.

I'm pondering what the future actually holds for me.

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