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Worried about pending mediation

  • wolfali16
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15 Aug 09 #138835 by wolfali16
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When my solicitor suggested mediation I was quite happy to go. My stbx refused. Now his solicitor has suggested it and he is only too happy to go.
Not surprising since he has told his solicitor that he never agreed to move out of the 'matrimonial' home. This is however a blatent lie, but because of holdups etc he has had more chance to consider his options and now wants me and the kids to move out and him sit cushy in a 3 bed house. We rent from an RSL and I am sure that they will not allow him to stay in the house, however they have told me that if the court ordered it them they couldn't do anything about it.
I know that that the housing situation is the one thing that we will not agree on and this worries me. I work full time so I have to pay for my legal costs, while he hasn't worked for 10 years and gets legal aid. Dragging this whole thing out is stressing me out especially as we are under the same roof still. The divorce proceedings have been going on since Janaury and I still have not got anywhere close to the Decree Nisi. Can someone tell me whether mediation is such a good idea afterall??:S

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15 Aug 09 #138857 by abi
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Hi wolfali,
When someone is on Legal Aid they have to have at least one session of mediation as part of the qualification for the Legal Aid!
Poss why he is so keen on it now?

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