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21 Mar 08 #17344 by cassidy
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mediation has been suggested by my solicitor to help us come to an agreement over financial the settlement.Is it worth doing or should I just ask for the courts to decide? We have three properties in joint names and my husband "has" another five tied up in trusts.He wants me to agree to having no interest in two of the properties in our joint names and to wants to claim more than half of our home as some of the money for each came from his family.We have been married for twenty years.

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I can only tell you my experience and I might be an exception....

My ex-husband and I went to mediation - took months but we eventually came to an agreement. He then took the agreement to his solicitor and next thing - he's changed his mind about all sorts, so then had to negotiate through solicitors, which cost a lot of money.

I guess it can be very helpful but only if you both are going to co-operate and abide by decisions made.:S

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It is the least costly rote, but doesn't work for all.

As Ephelia says, it only works if both parties are prepared to be honest, fair and abide by the outcome.

See this thread which shows some experiences of others:


Mine stalled, but I think we went to soon after splitting - too much angst still in the air! Genuinely hope to pick it up again though. Sols and barristers will devour the marital pot if it goes to court. However, your pot appears to be significant, so it may be worth going to court, as costs will represent a small %age of overall pot.

Best of luck


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