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07 Apr 10 #196779 by insane
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yes i agree with u on that as for naked pics ewww no thanks i couldnt cope with the sight of him now lol

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07 Apr 10 #196780 by Ferrets
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Oh god yes I just realised they would want them for him too, Oh no. Lets not go there right now. (shudders)

Take care Xxx

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07 Apr 10 #196781 by jxr
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Hi Suz,
Thanks for the update.
We've been seperated for about 9 months now, but absolutely nothing has happened in terms of the legal side of things. Tbh, i've been putting it off, haven't really felt like i would cope very well as i'm still struggling to come to terms with everything. I stopped posting on here a while back, because i really did sound like a broken record "Woe is me", "I'm so miserable" etc etc!!! The sad thing is not much has changed :laugh:
I do realise it's probably time to try and move on though and mediation seems like a good way. Well maybe not good, but you know what i mean :S
Mentioned it to tbx and she's ok with the idea, and it just seems a bit less confrontational than arguing through solicitors. We're not starting out with very much in the pot, so also want to try and keep costs down where possible!
Let me know how it goes - you can be my guinea pig!
Anyway, off to take some naked photos to take along with me. I'm counting on the sympathy vote :woohoo:

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08 Apr 10 #196967 by Ferrets
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Hey Jxr,

Sure I will keep you informed with how the mediation goes.

Sorry to hear that you are still finding things hard to cope with. I do remember you when I use to post a while back and believe me I dont remember you as all "woe is me". Your hurting and its understandable. Believe me when I say that even after 2 years of being seperated (i ended it) there are still challenges that are hard to face. I think I went through the mediation route, because however much you say you are going to get along for the sake of the kids and how however much you say you just want whats fair, it never works out that way. (Too many other people stick their noses in - on his part) and it ends up with being accused of something that never was. I want to be able to sit in a room and talk about how we can move on with our own lives. This is in a ideal world, it probably wont be like that at all, im just making sure that I am well prepared for everything possible outcome. Like you I knew it would be expensive to argue through the solicitors.

Dont worry that things havent changed so much, it is very tough, you have to (a one of my other good wiki friends told me), jump over one hurdle at a time, if you fall over get back up brush yourself off and take a bloody good run at the next hurdle.:cheer:

Dont forget three copies of naked photo's, im hoping they wont see where I copied and pasted my head onto Sandra Bullocks body!!!

Take care, pm me if you feel you need a chat! Suz XxxB)

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10 Apr 10 #197288 by jxr
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Thanks a lot Suz. I'm glad you don't remember me as being a grump - although i certainly feel it most of the time :unsure:

I'm sure it will just be a case of sitting down, having a nice chat and a cup of tea with x and sorting everything out in a nice friendly way.



Meanwhile, back in the real world..... :laugh:

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