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First joint mediation session

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28 Jun 10 #211420 by joanp
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At last we have our first joint mediation session on 22nd July, why does it take so long? it's been months since i started the ball rolling. Things have deteriorated to such an extent that my immediate priority is for us to live separately. If i can give some reassurances in mediation that if he moves out it won't affect the financial negotiations do you think i will be able to achieve this? I am concerned about the effect this situation is having on our daughters, they both have very important years coming up (one doing her finals at uni, the other doing a-levels) and they need their home enrivonment to be a calm and positive one where they can focus on their studying. It is so difficult to get this point across to stbx as he doesn't think they are affected by it? He has taken up permanent residence in the dining room and we only speak to each other when necessary, he can't be happy living like that either?

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01 Jul 10 #212025 by jxr
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That must be horrible for all of you, and certainly isn't a good learning environment for your girls. I'm sure your tbx isnt happy living like that either so it sounds to me like you're doing the right thing- maybe the mediator will give him some reassurance that he's not going to lose out financially if he moves out.
The only problem is, any agreement you reach at mediation won't be legally binding until you get it written up into a Consent Order, so not sure he would find it all that reassuring :SThe other obvious question is- can he afford to move out?
Watever happens, i hope for all your sakes that you can sort something out, because you present situation must be very stressfull.
Good luck

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