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23 Dec 10 #241160 by Will.i.am
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Hi

Anyone got any idea to my dilemma.

Having a round table meeting with ex and her sol, im self repping.

They have said that ex will not agree to meeting unless i pay half of her solicitors costs? Is this right? Surely the sol will be acting on her behalf and has already railroaded me in the past?

Any thoughts as far as i was aware you both paid half each for mediation if it is impartial but fail to see how this would or even could be impartial?

Thanks

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23 Dec 10 #241163 by WhiteRose
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Hi Will.i.am,

Hmmmmmmmm, its a toughie because there are people out there that would rack up thousands of £s just because they know their stbx will have to stump up half.

Also as it will be *her* solicitor you don't get a say in what goes on ..........

The only way I would agree to this, if it were me, is to set an upper limit.

ie. I agree to pay half legal fees to a maximum of £2k for example (or whatever a realistic figure will be).

I think this would keep you both focussed and be forced to negotiate/compromise rather then escalating costs bickering over details.

However her solicitor will still be acting on behalf of their client as you're LIP.

Good luck

WR

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23 Dec 10 #241164 by Will.i.am
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Hia thanks for quick reply :)

I could understand paying for half of 'neutral' mediation, but this meeting is with ex and ex's solicitor. i just cant see why if i am self repping i would have to pay half her solicitors fee's ??

who ultimetly will be looking out for her clients interest and not mine (its for child contact)??

Seems rather odd, surely the ex's solictor would have a conflict of interest to 'do work that would benifit both of us'

Will

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23 Dec 10 #241165 by eyes on horizon
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Oay for mediation with a mediation service? Of course.

NOT pay half her sols. If this is in relation to childrens act costs are very VERY rarely orderd so this is trying it on I am afraid.

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23 Dec 10 #241166 by WhiteRose
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Yes, I do agree, if your stbx is happy to do a 'round the table' why not go to a mediation session ..............

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23 Dec 10 #241167 by WhiteRose
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Eyes - you beat me to it ;)

Again - we are of the same opinion.

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23 Dec 10 #241186 by Will.i.am
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Hi there,

many thanks, i thought that was the way of it, but thought id better check,im happy to pay half of neutral mediation, but this has been declined, ex will only do meeting with her solicitor and me to pay half of her fees :angry:

her sol is very cunning and trying to bring the contact issues together with sorting out finances i think. They would tie me up in knots!

Cheers,:)that clears things up
Will

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