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mediation by phone?

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20 Feb 11 #252987 by tim waits
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I live (deoending on the M25) anything between 3-4 hours from my stbx. Can mediation sessions be done over the 'phone in these circumstances?

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20 Feb 11 #252996 by dukey
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Its not ideal but its up to the mediator some will some wont, a quick call and they will let you know.

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03 Mar 11 #255173 by Imediate
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I have only just seen your message, so my answer may be too late.

It can be done over the phone, but it is a poor option. The best is face to face meetings - so that you can see body language and so on. Next best is Skype so that, at least you can see eachother. Then comes the phone.

Can I suggest that, if you are going to have an initial meeting you make the effort to go and see the mediator so that you have the best chance of assessing him/her. Then, if you decide to go ahead and the mediator is agreeable, perhaps the matter can be progressed at a distance and preferably via Skype.

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04 Mar 11 #255263 by Cressida
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As an experienced mediator I would agree that mediation by phone is not ideal as an important part of the process is having all the parties in the room together so that constructive discussions can take place - if at all possible I would try to meet the mediator possibly explain the travel issues and maybe the mediator can arrange to have the intake meetings one after the other and then go straight into the first appointment.
Also as mentioned by someone else mediation by Skype is possible.
I hope that you manage to find a solution.
Cressida Burnet

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04 Mar 11 #255357 by tim waits
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Thanks all
Whilst I agree face to face is always best, petrol is £1.30 a litre and I have a 300 mile round trip which also means another day off work both of which I could have spent on or with my daughter.
Good to hear there seems to be the potential for some flexibility though

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04 Mar 11 #255358 by hawaythelads
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Feck me imagine all the hanging up on each other that'll go on in that process :P;)
all the best
pete xx

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