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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

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03 Mar 11 #255182 by perin123
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when you go to mediation do you fill in form E first and take it with you with what you want out of settlement or do they help you work out what you should get? I only want what I am entitled to but don't know what that is???

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03 Mar 11 #255183 by robinson25
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hi on our first appointment we chatted with the mediator together briefly then seperatly to see if we each had to pay for mediation. we were then given papework to fill in re finances but on the mediators own forms and we were asked to bring evidence of certain documents for the next meeting such as pay slips bank statements household bills etc. The second meeting we started to sit down and go throught the figures and the emotional issues and talked about the children. hope that helps.

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03 Mar 11 #255216 by jxr
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Perin,

My experience was exactly the same as robinson's.

First meeting you just have a chat with the mediator who explains how it works, and makes sure you are a suitable case for mediation. You are given financial forms to fill in and take back with you next time - not form Es, just the mediators own ones. You don't need to take anything with you to this 1st session.

The second session involved going through both our forms to see what assets we actually have to be divided.

Subsequent sessions were spent trying to come to an agreement as to how we were going to divide the assets.

As i understand it, if you come to an agreement at mediation and then have it turned into a Consent Order, you don't actually need to complete form Es, as you have already made a full financial disclosure during the mediation.

Good luck :)

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04 Mar 11 #255225 by Bobbinalong
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JR is right, if you complete most stuff in mediation you never do any of the form E's or anything else, it gets transposed into a Consent Order and put before a judge to ratify, you wouldnt attend the hearing.
mediations sessions vary it depends on your situation, ex, future plans, if you intend buying a house, take some examples of what you intend/need to buy.
You will need to disclose everything finacially.
If you can do everything between you in mediation and come to an agreement it will be good and so less stressfull.
Depends on the other person, remember the word mediation and what it means, my ex used mediation as a means to get what she wanted and forget the rest, hence we ended up in court.
It also depends on the mediator, some are good some are not, in my opinion, all human.
eg, I wanted my kids through the weekend and take to school, my ex strongly rejected this, why?, 'because thats my job', 'not good enough', I said, 'actually it is', mediator said!!
No one else I spoke to since thought it was good enough, and neither did the judge at my hearing.... so I take them to school.

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04 Mar 11 #255241 by WYSPECIAL
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Do you have to pay for the mediation service?

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04 Mar 11 #255253 by perin123
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Thanks all for replies. Good news seems to be not having to fill in form E!!! At the mo ex and I agree we don't want to go to court etc as neither of us can afford it and we are still (surprisingly) friends.(even though he has left and moved in with his boss from work!!) It's easier as we have a child so we can still talk. I just want what I am legally entitled to I'm not out to get more, it's just knowing that WHAT I am asking for is fair? Must be very easy to get bitter and think you should have more cos they've left and walked away from what you thought was a lifelong relationship...:(Am dreading the whole thing...........

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04 Mar 11 #255373 by robinson25
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Hi wyspecial. it depends on your income if you pay or not, my husband had to but i didnt so mine was free. However i was border line for legal aid and i didnt get that.

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