We want to use mediation as neither of us have any money to waste on solicitors and courts, and hopefully we can stay civil enough to sort it all out. Stbx has moved away ,about 1 - 2 hours drive. How do we go about finding a mediator? Is it up to us anyway to just find one when we want? How much do they cost? Where do you find out about them? Any other info from people who have used them I would be grateful for.Thanks
Costs will vary. Normally the hourly rate is similar to the rates charges by solicitors but as you attend togather, you each pay 50%.
You can self refer, and you & your ex can agree on where you go - e.g. whether you pick someone who is half way beteen you (geographically) or local to one or other of you (inwhich case you could agree to split the travelling costs!)
mediation is prinmarily aimed at helping you to come toan agreement. What the mediator can't do is give you legal advice, or draw up the actual order once you do agree. Nor can they make the other party cooperate, so you do need to be confident that you and your ex are vboth going into it in good faioth and that you will both be honest and open in disclosing your finaces etc.
It may be in your best intersts to see a solicitor as well, if only to discuss with them the legal impact of any proposed settlemetn, and to get help in actually drawing up the paper work.