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06 Apr 11 #261839 by perin123
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do mediators have their own forms to fill in for finances or do they use the same as solicitors and courts?

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06 Apr 11 #261843 by Bobbinalong
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hi perin, I guess the answer is, they use their own, if they use any.
Most use a wipe board or large clip board and write big stuff, they summarize in a letter to parties after the meeting.
Nothing in mediation is 'formal' as such, it doesnt have to be adhered to either, it can be ratified by your solicitor.

If parties go into mediation with the same goal, ie sorting things out, all will be good, unfortunately more often the case, meduiation can be used by one party to get what they want and maybe sacrifice alittle to the other in the process. I am afraid my experience is not good. But there are plenty of peeps here who have had benefit from it.

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06 Apr 11 #261875 by coffeebod
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My stbx and I went for the mediation route and fortunately this proved ideal for us......although it began about 6 months after he had left so I cannot say if it would have had we left it for about a year or so....saying that it did work which was alot less hassle than had we both used solicitors which would have been a longer,costlier experience which neither of us particularly wanted. If you are both prepared to enter it not expecting to get everything then I would recommend it. The mediator asked us both to fill in their own forms to giver a picture of our incomes, savings, pensions etc so that they had a good picture of what needed to be negotiated. After each meeting we were sent a letter outlining what we had discussed and what was proposed to be discussed at the next session. These forms were incorporated into a final portfolio after the last session along with propsals we had both agreed for the solicitor to draw up into a Consent Order. If you need to know anything else about the process....please ask either on here or PM me :)

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