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Mediation - first appointment

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18 Aug 11 #283605 by Action
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Can anyone give me an idea of what to expect at my first 'assessment' appointment. I've chosen to go to this on my own but am wondering if I will have the opportunity to express my concerns about why it is so difficult to negotiate with STBX. Should I take all my financial stuff with me? i don't want them wasting time explaining to me how things are worked out cos I think I understand that now - it's husband that doesn't, or refuses to!

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19 Aug 11 #283652 by MrsMathsisfun
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My partner has just attend his first mediation appointment.

At his first appointment he was on his own, his ex has also had an appointment on her own. in a couple of weeks time they will all meet up together.

At his appointment all the mediator knew was his contact details, From what he said the mediator just asked general questions about the history of the divorce, what he wanted from the meetings. He kind of put forward his version of what he wants and why.

There was some discussion about financial stuff.

He was really worried about going and resisted for a while but he was really reassured by the process so fingers crossed it works.

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19 Aug 11 #283654 by dukey
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Assessment for mediation is to decide if mediation will help, if the answer is yes then mediation will be arranged if the answer is no then its off to court, so the assessment is not the same as mediation its really just to discover if mediation will help.

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19 Aug 11 #283676 by Ronnie13
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Sorry to hijack thread, just a question re mediation.
My partner attended a meeting back in Jan. His STBX didn't attend her meeting as she "couldn't be ar**d!"
Now after 7 mths his sol is now going to file for divorce and told him that they have to attend mediation AGAIN!
Will they refer back to the details from his previous session? and what happens if she refuses to atend again?
Thanks:)

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19 Aug 11 #283677 by dukey
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mediation assessments only started in April this year, so if your partner is going to ask court to help with the money side there will need to be a mediation assessment, its no big deal just 30-60 minutes and costs around £70ish, if the ex wont respond the mediator will give certificate FM1 which allows your partner to apply to court.

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19 Aug 11 #283678 by Ronnie13
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Cheers :)
He is pretty sure she won't attend as she seems determined to drag it out as long as poss :S
I take it once proceedings have started, she cant decide in the future that she wants to go to mediation as another delaying tactic?

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19 Aug 11 #283681 by dukey
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If the mediator thinks mediation is not going to help and the court process is started then the time scales are set by court.

They could mediate but only by consent, so if your partner thinks its just a delaying tactic he would just refuse and leave it to court to deal with.

If either partie deliberately causes delays thus increasing the other person legal costs there can be cost penalty's for doing so.

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