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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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06 Nov 11 #296502 by MrsMathsisfun
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Unfortunately (or fortunately it depends on which side your on) how much you contribute as a % of your income doesnt matter.

If he cant see what your asking for isnt unreasonable then I think it will end in court.

If this does go to court, have the facts to hand. eg how much a suitable house would cost. What mortgage you can get, how you could finance the FMH.

A court are more interested in the facts rather than who paid what, did what etc.

mediation can only work if both sides want it to and if one side unrealistic then its not going to work.

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06 Nov 11 #296530 by soobee
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hi jaymdee i agree with you ...think it will end up in court as he has stalled everything each time...think its a case of putting his head in the sand....he knows he will have to settle up in the end but the longer it takes the more money he can hide etc....already worked out cost of houses etc...and as it would be very hard for me to able to afford to live ...this is where SM would come in ..mediator already warned him of this as his wages mega higher than mine....

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10 Nov 11 #297307 by soobee
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update ..just back from solicitor...she said nxt mediation will be last if we cant agree on financal outcome then its best to stop mediation and go to court...as in her words my stbx is being a silly bugger...thinks hes hidden way more than what we think,,and she just wants to get on with getting his bank statements etc...she also said that while the judge will be fair they will take into account the way he has been acting.and what hes been doing....also im stopping mort as soon as he has had time to short out banking etc...(he doesnt know this yet).i wanted to be amicable but he has made this very hard for me so im handing it all over to solicitor to deal with as i know he wont be able to bully her..as he has me....

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