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Advice on Mediation

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27 Feb 12 #314801 by Action
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I''ll send you a PM so as not to hijack the thread.

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27 Feb 12 #314807 by jo40
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Hi Action
thanks for your comments, I can''t honestly say hand on heart when and where the shares were bought but gut feeling, two doggy phone calls to the house from a company and the fact that his dad does share dealing tells me he has some.
As for the house, thats a sticking point, it is adapted for our son who has special needs and in reality their is no way I could afford to buy at the moment in the area we live and son needs to stay at the school he is in due to things that are in place there for his needs as in teaching etc. I have been writing a journal since day one about everything as he has also just recently discovered that he has a son, well just started to help out and try and do things for him, talk about shutting the gate after the horse has bolted!!! Having to bite my tongue its going to have permanent teeth marks in it soon!
Sorry for the rant. Also sorry it looks as if you are going to court, I am only at the begining of my journey of divorce, but god I can see that I am going to have no tongue or hair left at the end of this process.

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27 Feb 12 #314811 by Action
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Have you been the main carer of your son? Do you work? Does your husband work?

Depending on the answers to these questions it could be that you will have a strong case for staying in the FMH. Maybe some of the Wiki experts can help?

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27 Feb 12 #314814 by Action
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Hi again

I see that much of this has already been raised in your previous posts so ignore my last questions.

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27 Feb 12 #314818 by jo40
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Hi Action, yes I work 21 hours per week over 5 days so I can take him to school and then pick him up afterwards, also when he was little I worked 3 long days 2 days he had him and 1 day I worked from home, STBX works 35 hours per week plus overtime plus weekends, he has in the past worked 100hrs per week he currently does 14 hour days, plus in the last 4 years he has not had a sunday off. Its amazing though that since the all this kicked off he has stopped all the overtime etc and has now arranged only to work certain days so he has weekends free, I know that this his previous working rota is provable and that he has taken his income down from 85,000.00 per year to 37,000 again provable as I have copies of his P60''s for the last 5 years, He is now saying that he is the main carer which is why I started a journal, I do believe I have a good case for staying in the FMH I think my main worry is where this is all leading and what kind of life/person I am going to be at the end of it? I know that I am a strong person with a fiery temper which I am controlling perfectly, its just that it takes over your life! I currently feel that my whole existance/life is on hold until further notice

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27 Feb 12 #314828 by Action
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Oh boy, do I know that feeling of life being on hold!

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29 Feb 12 #315304 by jo40
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mediation did happen yesterday but what a load of bull!
I can tell you now that he is going to have her running around him like a little schoolgirl! She is not a strong person and even though we were in separate rooms I could tell he had been working on her already! Do I call it off now or do I carry on? we have another meeting in 3 weeks because she is off on holiday. Can you ask for a change in mediator because you know that she is not strong enough to stand up to him?:angry::angry:

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