My ex and i were due to be going to mediation next week to sort out finance issues and chld contact.
I had a call from the mediator today to say that my ex had phoned and said that he thought mediation would help but didnt have enough dispossable income...
The mediator said to me that he will have to pay solicitors fees that are much more expensive hence why you go to mediation.
What are my options now...do i go to court to sort finances...and stop child contact til its all sorted out....help!!!!!!!!!!!
yes he spends evey friday/sat with him.I have had alot of problems with my ex re our son and my solicitor said i could bring them up in mediation....but he has used no disposable income excuse not to go...Ive tried to suggest that he re thinks mediation but as of yet no reply to my text...ive asked if he would provide full disclosure of finances to my sol again no reply...My son alsoattends speech thearpy for a stammer which his speech thearipist has suggested the way his dad is behaving isnt helping him.
Hi Cazza, to step back and look at this impartially:
You were due to attend mediation - does your ex believe this is for finances only, or is he aware that this is also for contact? The two should be seerated totally from each other in my view.
Have you continued to send your son for contact but have raised the issues with your ex - I know you had some issues previously about him going out etc?
My partners daughter has speech therapy classes too - what does the speech therapist is impacting your son? i.e. what behaviour do they know about, where from and in what way does it affect him?
From experience, going down the route of blocking contact will not help your case in any way. If you believe that there is a definite risk, issues that may harm your son etc then take some advice either from a solicitor or elsewhere perhaps, and put it to your ex formally, but dont stop contact.
Yes my ex was aware that this was for both.
I have continued to send my son for contact and yes the issues were raised through solictors but there continues to be problems hence why he thought mediation would be a good idea.
When my on first started speech therapy....i was asked to give a background history...she said the fact his dad went and didnt explain to him everything and not helped and the worry of it all isnt helping..
I also have a daughter who has bulliema who vision of everything is blurred...she badmouths me to her brother questions him and even runs my parents down who have passed away....i dont want my son to be mantipulated lke this ether and it isnt fair on him at all..my daughter has also read divorce paperwork which she relays back to her brother...
I dont want to stop contact but im not sure how i deal with his one because all the worry and pressure isnt fair on my son.