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26 May 12 #333049 by Clydesdale
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I have to complete this and am confused. My ex lives in the martial home with her new partner - she denies he makes any contributions. I live in my new home with my new partner and her 14 and 17 year old. Do I complete showing the bills for all 4 of us ? I can''t work out how I can show this. How can I challenge when my ex comes back with minimal income and massive costs ?

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26 May 12 #333050 by Bobbinalong
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Hi, I am not sure why you have been asked to complete it for her?
Especially when you wouldn''t even know the figures.
All you can do is note her income total as far as you know, if you know this put that down.
Whatever the bills might be and any mortgage.
Whether she says he contributes or not is irrelevant if he lives there and earns say £20k a year.... He does.

of course you put down all yours too, you don''t have two kids live with you for free, if your partner contributes then you can put this too.
You could contact your mediator in the meantime and ask for some guidance, it does seem strange if you have been asked to complete for both of you?

When I went I hadn''t long been renting, I did a spreadsheet for me, and she scribbled on a piece of paper and it was quite obvious she had kept altering the figures to produce the fact she was left with £5 a month!

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26 May 12 #333053 by Clydesdale
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My wording is confusing. What I meant was we each have a spreadsheet to complete. I cannot see where she is going to include his income and his costs . Likewise for my partners kids I can almost come up with any answer I want.

My ex is now living with an accountant and works full time with £600 from me monthly and spent 20 mins with the mediator trying to get legal aid. There is no chance of her spreadsheet being truthful.

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26 May 12 #333054 by WhiteRose
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The sad fact is that mediation can not work if one (or both) parties are going to be untruthful.

financial disclosure here is purely voluntary :unsure:

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26 May 12 #333055 by Bobbinalong
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Getting the legal aid is only based on her income. If she is not working she will get it anyhow.

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