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26 May 12 #333212 by xxxxhelpxxxx
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I have had to go back for another initial mediation session because I am changing solicitor and it has been more than 4 months since my last visit.

The mediator was the same person I saw before and she asked if anything much had changed. I told her about all the changes personally that had happened and the changes in his life as well.

I explained again about all his potential debts to IR (company and personal)and VAT, etc and the fact that he now has a child by the OW.

Her conclusion was that essentially nothing had changed, he was not willing (by inaction) to mediate because he did not make any attempt to complete financial forms last time.

She decided that the best course of action would be to go down the legal route for financial disclosure and then mediate after that if possible.

Has anyone else been down this route and how was it?


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27 May 12 #333226 by LittleMrMike
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No I haven''t, but the mediator is spot on here.

If one party is not willing to co-operate, then mediation/collaborative law is a waste of time and money. I''m all for mediation in principle, but it takes two to tango.


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