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Re Mediation Meeting

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29 May 12 #333919 by PhoebeBlue
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Went to second mediation meeting today ... awful! Hoped to discuss living arrangements (we''re both living in FH still - unbearable!) Is there point continuing? Husband stubborn (wants to sell house and have his share before he leaves and will leave to buy a house not rent).This will take months & months.
I''m going out of my mind ... do I fight (solicitors / court) OR give in so I can have some peace and begin to live life and enjoy my children once again. Therefore thinking I should rent til we sell the house.
Mind spinning ...

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30 May 12 #333943 by Action
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The Mediator should be discussing with you, at the beginning of each session, what the key issues are for discussion. At our last mediation session I found that I had to be quite assertive in steering the discussions to address the issues that I felt were important. I had reached the stage of either having a formula on the table for potential financial settlement of I would be applying for AR.

Keep in mind that you are paying for this service, so you need to make it clear what you want to achieve. Can you afford to rent in the interim? I think most people on here would advise against selling the FMH until you have a Consent Order in place.

Do you know what his expectations are with regard to a split? Are you miles apart in what you think you need? Are you filling in form E?

We spent thousands on mediation and ended up with a settlement not far from what I had suggested days after we (he) decided to split - it took the mediation process to make him realise how things are calculated.

Don''t give up just yet - mediation has got to be faster and cheaper than the Court route, providing you both want to do it.

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