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26 Jun 12 #339265 by Salisburyeagle
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My stbx has refused to enter into mediation. However, the mediation service have told me I still need to pay £65 to attend a session before they''ll provide me with the letter for the courts confirming that mediation is not an option.

This seems perverse. What is a solo session going to achieve if the other party won''t engage? Do I have to attend or can I ask for the letter without going through a session?

Thanks.

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26 Jun 12 #339270 by wmorris2
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Salisburyeagle wrote:

My stbx has refused to enter into mediation. However, the mediation service have told me I still need to pay £65 to attend a session before they''ll provide me with the letter for the courts confirming that mediation is not an option.

This seems perverse. What is a solo session going to achieve if the other party won''t engage? Do I have to attend or can I ask for the letter without going through a session?

Thanks.


I think you have to attend, It will achieve the fact you bothered but she couldn''t and you could claim that from her. Do anything and everything to make yourself look better than her. Tow the line. In the grand scheme of divorce £55 is a drop in the ocean.

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26 Jun 12 #339275 by Fiona
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The first meeting is a mediation and Information Assessment Meeting and it''s not uncommon for the parties to attend individually to find out about the process of mediation. If the applicant attends the mediator can write to the respondent and offer an appointment to attend a preliminary meeting to find out about mediation on their own. IT isn''t unusual for someone who has resisted mediation before to accept a direct invitation from the mediator and then agree to attend joint mediation sessions.

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26 Jun 12 #339278 by Salisburyeagle
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They have already refused the direct approach by the mediation company and therefore I''m perplexed as to why I''m being told I have to attend the session.

Does it really matter to the judge that I attended? Surely it''s enough to say I tried to engage in the process and wasn''t able to because of my stbx?

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26 Jun 12 #339281 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Hi,

When I was going through divorce my exh refused to attend mediation, I then received a letter from them saying that although I agreed to attend, there would be no benefit and therefore no appt given.

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26 Jun 12 #339358 by lonely and confused
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Hi All

Did I understand this right - I can make an appointment with a mediator, have an initial solo session, then they will write to my ex inviting him to attend a solo session?

I haven''t really looked into this as just the thought of spending time in the same room as him just makes me want to spit blood!!

Thanks

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