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25 Sep 12 #357863 by cliasmol£7
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I went a few weeks ago with husband to mediation, he lied about his employment status, when I confronted mediation service about fact that he had wrong form they were unable to do anything/ impartial etc.
After a fair bit of agro they have now sent him the correct form which has made him very unhappy.
We are due to go again in a couple of weeks to exchange financial forms, I know that as a self employed person it will be mainly fantasy land,my solicitor will then have to ask further questions etc
The mediation lady is very pleasant, and an experienced Solicitor, but in this role is not able to offer any legal advice.
I just think that for £150 each + VAT is crazy money, you might as well have friend/ relative/neighbour doing it.
I would welcome views of others weather to bother going back.
Many Thanks,

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25 Sep 12 #357866 by tinkerbell1606
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mediation only works if both parties are willing to be honest and full & frank disclosure of available finance, earning capacity etc is forthcoming.
If this is the case you can save an awful lot of money, time & energy if you''re both willing.
If your stbx is not prepared to be honest, you will end up paying for mediation 1st, which cannot work under these circumstances, and then paying again for the solicitors to do the job thoroughly!
It might be worth explaining just how expensive it could get if the courts are required to decide the division of assets, perhaps that would encourage a bit more cooperation.
Good luck

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25 Sep 12 #357870 by cliasmol£7
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Many thanks for your reply,in my head mediation is the cheaper, more civilised way to do things but as husband has developed obssion with his money, main aim being to make sure I don t get any, I can t see how it is going to work.
It appears to be only the courts that can force full financial disclosure, hence he is great fan of mediation process.

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26 Sep 12 #357880 by Action
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I had the same problem with my ex telling a complete load of lies and being slow to supply information. The mediator told him very early on that the process only works if both parties are completely open and honest.

I exposed him as far as I dare, to the degree that the mediator refused to keep possession of some of the documents I had submitted for fear of being incriminated with HMRC. I called his bluff and gave him one last chance at mediation or I would take it to court. We did manage to agree out of court - a bit of a compromise on my part in the end but better than the cost and ordeal of the court route as far as I''m concerned.

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