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02 Oct 12 #358904 by BoysMum
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I am going to offer to attend mediation with my ex regarding contact.

In the past, I had a solicitor representing me and was in receipt of Legal Aid. Due to my ex not wanting to pursue contact, my solicitor closed my file and returned my Legal Aid Certificate.

My ex is a privately paying client.

My questions is - When I offer to attend mediation, will I have to pay, or will my ex have to pay for me to attend? I do not see matters progressing very far due to his total lack of commitment. I just don''t want to be stuck with a bill for mediation when I can''t see him progressing matters. Can I insist that he pay?

Thanks all.x

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02 Oct 12 #358926 by vivi36
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Hi.

I tried to look for an answer online for you but I can''t seem to find anything.

I went to mediation 6years ago so not sure how valid my response is but we did an income and expenditure. They had scaling costs. I was never entitled to legal aid so my income put me in a payment bracket of 50 per session. My x is a high earner so hd had to pay slot more for the same.

Find your local and ask them to send you out some information.

They saw us individually first on different days to ensure they could actually help which was free.

Also you mention his lack of commitment. Twice my x left me sat there and they never charged me.

As I say it was a long time ago I don''t know if they receive government funding etc. But give them a call and ask for a pack.

Xx

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02 Oct 12 #358950 by BoysMum
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Hi Vivi,

Thanks very much for that.

Has anyone else been through mediation recently, or who can tell me whether I am liable to pay, or my ex ?

Many Thanks.

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02 Oct 12 #358963 by Action
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If the Mediator has half an ounce of professionalism they will write to you outlining the process and costs, after all, it is voluntary.

I attended mediaiton this year and last but it was for finances not child issues. It cost me a fortune but probably cheaper than if I''d gone to court.

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02 Oct 12 #358965 by BoysMum
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Thanks Action,

Cost you a fortune? What are we talking here? Hundreds?

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02 Oct 12 #358973 by Action
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It was £90 each plus VAT per hour so it was well over £1000 each by the time we''d finished and then there was advice along the way from our solicitors on top of that.

Are you far apart in what you are hoping for? If you think neither will be able to compromise on an agreement then there seems little point.

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02 Oct 12 #358975 by BoysMum
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We are worlds apart........... But, I want to do it to show that I am being reasonable if that makes sense.

Mind you, looking at the figures as a rough guide line, I doubt he will even bother to see it through. He spouts a lot of hot air, and actually does nothing constructive.

Thanks for all of your help :)

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