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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Mediation Questions

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02 Oct 12 #358977 by Action
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Yes, I understand that. Maybe the mediator will explain to him what is a reasonable expectation but, from what you say, if he''s not told what he wants to hear he''s unlikely to follow it through. At least you''ll have it on record that you tried.

Good luck.

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02 Oct 12 #358978 by BoysMum
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Sounds as though you know him !!

Thanks ever so much for all your help.x

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02 Oct 12 #359007 by leanng
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i went to mediation to discuss both contact and finance.

you pay for yourself and your ex will have to pay for himself.

i had a meeting on my own first to discuss issues and then a joint meeting.

I never got as far as discussing finances as ex would not commit to anything as regards contact other than 2 hours on a Sunday afternoon but not every week and only for my then 13 year old son.... i also had a 15 year old daughter at the time.

Mediator stopped first meeting... said it wasn''t going to work.

try it....it might work. you''ll know in first meeting if its going to.

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22 Oct 12 #362406 by ochreloca
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Action wrote:

If the Mediator has half an ounce of professionalism they will write to you outlining the process and costs, after all, it is voluntary.

I attended mediaiton this year and last but it was for finances not child issues. It cost me a fortune but probably cheaper than if I''d gone to court.

Not any more! (Voluntary that is)

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22 Oct 12 #362410 by adw
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yes you will have to pay for mediation regardless who makes the appointment.the cost is based on earnings.i didnt attend as it was too expensive for what was on offer.

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22 Oct 12 #362415 by sulkypants
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I did not have to pay anything for mediation, but I was claiming benefits, I think there is a sliding scale on costs but it cost me nothing.

It was cheaper than a Solicitor, and you will need a Solicitor to draw up a Consent Order but there are links on here for consent orders at a much cheaper fee than a High Street one.

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23 Oct 12 #362475 by positive99
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If you are claiming certain benefits such as income support you are eligible for free mediation. Also if you were entitled to legal aid you may find it is still free for you. Your ex will have to pay per session though.

I attended mediation today and mine is free however it is costing my ex £250 per session.

It is hard work but I think it is worth giving it a try.

Good luck

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