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Mediation from hell

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11 Oct 12 #360466 by cliasmol£7
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Dear All,
Many thanks for all your support.
I knew this morning was going to be difficult, but not to the extent it was.
mediation Solicitor was basically feathering her own nest and didn t even know the law.
Ex paperwork was missing all that I expected, then through in a few silly health problems,
I got so cross Solicitor said I did not have capacity, I was close to hitting her, capacity is a medical decision not a legal decision, I am qualified in this area she is not.
Because he has not sorted his post I was able to expose him for liar he has become.
He threatened me with an injunction for harrassment, he won t get that one to stick.
There is a lot of money involved, so my Solicitor suggests raising a court action on Tuesday, He is rather like a small boy hanging on to his electronic piggy bank.
He wants mediating Solicitor + his + my Solicitor all there for a meeting, in his dreams, obviously I refused, as is my right.
I would welcome all comments
Many Thanks.

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11 Oct 12 #360467 by julie321
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Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. My solicitor has suggested mediation, not sure stbx will agree anyway but not too keen myself to be honest.

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11 Oct 12 #360469 by cliasmol£7
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Many Thanks for your reply, don t go there, you can lie/ fail to disclosure financial information in mediation, court gives the true picture, @ a price.

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11 Oct 12 #360493 by sulkypants
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My experience of mediation was mainly good, but they do have a huge weakness in that they have no teeth, they can not make anyone do or supply anything whereas a Judge can.

I also feel they take the easy/quickest option.

example get the house valued.

Spouce just copies property details off the internet that a similar to our own but worth much more (it was worth him over valuing the marital home) get your own valuations.

He used houses that were extended, had a consevatory or were detatched valued at £360K when I pointed out my houe did not have any of these she knocked 10K off the figure.

When I had my house valued it was worth £325 a year later! I was told by two Estate Agents my home had never been worth £350k.

Pensions told him on no less than 4 occasions to employ the services of an actuary but they could not make him, a Judge would make such an order.

He did not produce a single back statement or a wage slip, and that was fine she accepted what he said I wanted proof as he seems to be working every hour god sends has no time for children, yet I received no benefit.

If there is a wide gap in what you can agree to then go for an FDR expensive I know but at least then you will get an accurate account, sadly at a cost.

I do think that mediation should be able to kick a case into court if a party feels that there spouse is not being honest or with holding information.

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