In same room?

I went to see mediator recently and she said I would have to sit in same room as X. I contested this but she seemed to know her job, obviously. After my appraisal we agreed I was not emotionally stable to be in room with him as he intimidated me and controlled me.
Stbx rang today for me to go to mediation. I said I didn''t want to be in room with him and he said his solicitor said I wouldn''t?
Who is correct? I''m confused?

When I tried to start mediation (it didn''t work as ex refused to attend) I was told by the mediator that I didn''t need to be in the same room. I was told that we sat in separate rooms and the mediator simply moved back and forth between us. I had one appointment of mediation over child issues and that is the way it worked there too. Simply tell the mediator that you are not able to be in the same room and explain why. Don''t let them brow beat you into it.

I am not sure how mediation could work effectively if both parties did not make an attempt to sit in the same room and work through their issues together. In my son''s case, his ex. came on a different day with her boyfriend. needless to say, the mediation was a waste of time and money.

It is possible to have mediation in seperate rooms, I was given the choice, if the mediator doesnt allow it they are just being lazy and trying to make life easy for themselves, you can have seperate rooms.

I was offered separate rooms too, I believe a good mediator should offer this if either party has problems sitting in the same room for whatever reason! Mediation can be successful if both parties are willing to give it a go, but both parties need to feel comfortable and if this means separate rooms then separate rooms it should be.