Started mediation and am pressured to make quick decisions on arrangements. I wondered how valid these agreements are???????????? mediation tell me they are legally binding. Others tell not worth the paper written on.
Can an arrangement made now be held in later divorce?
As I understand it nothing is legally binding until it goes before the court and becomes a Consent Order. I went to mediation, made an agreement (which took weeks) and then my now exh got another solicitor and we were back to square one.
mediation is supposed to be a way of getting two people together to reach a fair agreement, with a third party making sure it is fair to both.
If you feel pressured the session is NOT being fair to you. Speak up at once and say " I feel pressured at this point and would like some time to reflect on what has been said." Ask for the sessions to be put in writing (or make your own notes) and -if no agreement is satisfactory at that session -say you will consider & get advice on the issue you are not in agreement with and discuss it next time. Lots of good people & information on this site.
Many thanks for sensible suggestions.
Never thought of that.
Seemed that they just wanted to get something down on paper as soon as possible.
I felt the process put us both at odds straight away with issues that we might have agreed on but now do not.
I feel if an agreement can be reached and the tine and effort put in - it should be binding before any going to any court .
Otherwise not worth doing.
I will sure take your advice
Divdad - I was supposed to go to mediation but I feared pressure by my X2B to get his own way and was told that the mediator could only keep us on track by talking about financial settlement, mediator not there to take sides or keep the peace!!
After careful consideration I decided that I would not be pressurised into mediation and have put finances in hands of my sol - more money I know but worth it for my sanity as X2B is controlling bully.
Had one individual appt with mediator at which was told that he could draw up an agreement if one reached but it was not legally binding until drawn up as proper Consent Order.
At mediation too, my X2B could have lied about any hidden assets and fobbed me off with lies which I couldnt prove only by asking my solicitor to ask for written proof so decided to cut out the mediation middle man.
Hope that helps.