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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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We agreed at mediation but now she has ignored it.

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09 Jun 18 #502127 by Visselly
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Oh dear. I have my first mediation session next Wednesday, and I had high hopes they would achieve an agreement.

From your experiences though, it sounds as though any agreement could be more trouble than it's worth.

And given the expense (£191 each for one session!) it does make me question whether we are wasting our time and money!

Good luck to you both - I hope you find a solution

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11 Jun 18 #502155 by TRT
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It is important to agree a Consent Order and then get the courts to seal the order. Once sealed, and if it is a Clean Break, then the court will take a dim view of requests to vary the order. They will allow a consensual alteration but these things are supposed to be final and binding - they don't want people continually tying up the courts over squibbly little alterations.

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11 Jun 18 #502158 by HappyOneDay
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For me, the mediators never encouraged us to write up a Consent Order. They left it as written summaries. I thought this would suffice but I was wrong about that. Since my ex has moved out of the country, the UK court does not have any way to enforce an order anyway. We can't go back to mediation as does not live here and does not come here to visit the children or for work. So I encourage anyone in this type of position to get more security around their consent order. I could have been more aware about what to do, and I certainly regret that.

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11 Jun 18 #502162 by TRT
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Countries with reciprocal enforcement of matrimonial orders can act if there is an order in place. www.hfclaw.com/what-we-do/international/...court-orders-abroad/

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11 Jun 18 #502163 by HappyOneDay
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Thanks for the link. Unfortunately, I think the legal fees will be so high that it is not worth it. I'm up to 100K in legal fees and I just can't afford to pay anymore. It's the USA.

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11 Jun 18 #502164 by TRT
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Judge Judy? :P

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