used to get legal aid

My ex got a sol last may.

In Aug I got asked to go to mediation.

Before mediation I didn’t have a clue what my Ex wanted.

After mediation I still didn’t have a clue.

All the mediator told me was; your ex has told us the mediation won’t work for you

its now Oct, I have found out that she only started the mediation process in order for her to get legal aid.

When I found out about mediation, I was happy, I thought.. At last I find out what’s going to happen.

What a let down, it was used as a tool for my ex to get legal aid.

I have since spoke to someone who works as a legal security, and this is quite normal.

BUT.... I do agree with the principal off mediation and I will love to go down that road.

You are supposed to go to mediation if you are recieving legal aid. But provided the other party doesent go then you dont have to. In other words the recipiant of legal aid is let off the hook if the other party dont want to go.

For me I could not sit in the same room as my ex let alone negotiate with her. My ex is highly abusive and it would just be imposible. All the hurt and pain would come flooding back and I cant go thru that again. She is impoosible to negotiate with at the best of times. Its her way or no way. So I declined her invitation to go to mediation. It costs a lot more to do it thru solicitors but at least I dont have to face her to much.

What I am gearing myself up for is seeing her in court. That will be tough. But its something I have to go thru. Chris.

So Chris - any advice where the court has ORDERED mediaton and yet the 2bx is simply not prepared to mediate anything and is at the same time insiting on mediation? As your ex - she is one of those ' my way or the highway' Give in to my demands and just agree, then that is sucessful mediaiton