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29 Aug 19 #509376 by numpy123
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Evening,

I have a number of questions, not all linked to mediation but that appears to be the end in mind for my wife (whom I love and have let down).

1. I believe her solicitor will be the mediator, I personal think this is an unfair advantage as they will know the case and will have conferred about the outcomes her client (my wife) wants. The question is should I initiate first with a different person as I assume once they have asked I am unable to decline the mediator involved?

2. If very personal information (health and financial details) has been sent by my wife but using a two different family members email accounts rather than her own is that ok? They had the family members consent but not mine and now that information sits within other peoples email accounts. I would have thought this is not allowed?

3. On my PC at home, registered to me (both hardware and software) documents by my wife were downloaded locally in our home of which we all have open access, there are no personal logins required for this PC nor were any of these files marked confidential. I did not seek this information, it is available on a public ‘Downloads’ folder on the computer and when I used the PC to download a file of my own these were presented to me. I read some of the ones in there and they were documents from here solicitor. Where do I stand here, I feel bad but didnt feel it was illegal?

Thanks in advance for any guidance.

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31 Aug 19 #509426 by Steven Wade
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numpy123 wrote:

Evening,

I have a number of questions, not all linked to mediation but that appears to be the end in mind for my wife (whom I love and have let down).

1. I believe her solicitor will be the mediator, I personal think this is an unfair advantage as they will know the case and will have conferred about the outcomes her client (my wife) wants. The question is should I initiate first with a different person as I assume once they have asked I am unable to decline the mediator involved?

Run a mile. They're not impartial.

2. If very personal information (health and financial details) has been sent by my wife but using a two different family members email accounts rather than her own is that ok? They had the family members consent but not mine and now that information sits within other peoples email accounts. I would have thought this is not allowed?

OK in what way? In terms of privacy laws it may be relevant - but likely it's going to not be relevant in family law proceedings...

3. On my PC at home, registered to me (both hardware and software) documents by my wife were downloaded locally in our home of which we all have open access, there are no personal logins required for this PC nor were any of these files marked confidential. I did not seek this information, it is available on a public ‘Downloads’ folder on the computer and when I used the PC to download a file of my own these were presented to me. I read some of the ones in there and they were documents from here solicitor. Where do I stand here, I feel bad but didnt feel it was illegal?

Thanks in advance for any guidance.

Again...probably not relevant for the family court matters...

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01 Sep 19 #509435 by numpy123
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Thanks Steven!

Point 2...Information of my financial status, payments I make relating to the house, which is everything as I pay all the bills. I am most concerned about the information on my anxiety, depression and previous alcohol detox's.

I realise the latter are alarm bells in general anyway. I just dont appreciate this information being sent from other peoples emails as that now sits on their accounts.

I have also since learnt that at least one conversation with my wife was recorded when on speaker by someone else.

Thank you!

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01 Sep 19 #509437 by Allcry
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Alls fair in love an war.


When you know someone's character it's easy.

This person wants you to speak openly to her solicitor to mediate. And that information may be used against you. Even things you shouldn't say.

I think this is the same as snooping at personal files. And you beng recorded on open speaker.

Roll your sleeves up and get stuck in.

If you haven't realised at this age, society's lesson is "don't get caught. And if you get caught have a lot of money for a very good solicitor."

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01 Sep 19 #509440 by numpy123
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Thats very sad to hear. I dont want a fight and actually the financial side is of little importance to me but I guess everyone with that attitude gets bulldozered....

Thanks for the response.

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