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12 Sep 19 #509624 by Janwyn60
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6 months ago I went to mediation with a view to settling finances with my ex. Unfortunately he declined to attend,but sent my solicitors an email stating he was more than happy for me to have half his pension. Since then my solicitors have asked for full and frank disclosure on the e3 form which to date he still hasn't done but today I received an email from my solicitors saying that wants to mediate and if I am happy to attend. I asked my solicitor why he has now decided to attend and she said that he obviously had buried his head in the sand and can't afford a solicitor and probably is hoping to come out better by complying. My question is although I've asked not to be in the same room as him what kind of preparation,questions,do I need to ask.I am hoping to get half of his pension which is currently 17/18k which he cant draw anything from until he is 55 which is 10yrs away for him,and somebody suggested on wv that it could be a better idea to have all the pension paid by sharing order to myself and I take it all and give him a cash settlement as I have already past 55 .....is this something mediation could suggest to him ??
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17 Sep 19 #509678 by hadenoughnow
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It is certainly something you could discuss at mediation as a way of resolving matters between you. If you are much older than him you may be able to argue for a greater than 50% share.

The mediator should ask both of you to provide full financial disclosure. The questions you need to ask would be based on this. Remember financial settlement on divorce is about needs and the means you have between you to meet them.

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07 Oct 19 #509923 by Janwyn60
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well Friday I received an email from my solicitor saying my ex has now decided not to mediate but is going to CAB for advise and still has not sent back his form E3,so I rang him to find out why he has done nothing except just drag the divorce on? his reply was he has nothing to give me !!!!…..so I said what do you want me to do withdraw taking a shot at half your pension to which he replied....can do then I can settle after divorce....still trying to manipulate me I think ...should I tell my solicitor what he said and just proceed onwards ??

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08 Oct 19 #509924 by WYSPECIAL
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Telling your solicitor will simply take up their time and therefore cost you money. What purpose will it serve? You just need to crack on with it so you can get the finances sorted.

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08 Oct 19 #509926 by Janwyn60
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This is what I am doing but it doesn't help that he is trying to get away without sending back a completed e3 form for his finances.
I spoke with him again today and he said he will get the forms downloaded and get them into my solicitors when he has time …..IHe is trying hard not to let me have half his pension although he has emailed my solicitor saying he is happy for me to have half. I offered to meet with him and discuss it all but he wouldn't go for that and would rather not talk to me.....very strange seing as he wanted it all amicable at first but now he is playing the victim....I just would like this to be all over as quickly as possible,but he is still stalling ...

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09 Oct 19 #509929 by WYSPECIAL
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Why discuss it with him?

Your ex knows the deadlines.

You are employing the services of a solicitor. Let them deal with it.

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