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01 Apr 20 #511987 by Carlsberg71
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Hi,
From my experience any money you had before you were married I’d now in the marital pot. You have been married 10years (as you’ve said) so any money you had before is now hers and vice versa. You won’t argue with the judge that it’s ‘rightfully’ yours.

Regarding mediation, you need to get it signed off from the mediator that your soon to be ex wife doesn’t want to carry on. This is needed in court documents to prove that mediation was tried and was officially ended.

Hiding money. Again, this will have been put in her head from her solicitor and she will be now convinced you have been squirrelling money away for the last 8 years and you have several thousands in the bank. All you can be in this is truthful with all bank statements, earnings, savings, shares and pensions (or whatever you may have). By the sounds of it, I’m pretty certain she will be less truthful to drag it out a little more.

Good luck.

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01 Apr 20 #511988 by Chevette
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Thanks for your reply Carlsberg71, If all money I ever earned before marriage is now jointly owned then that is truly horrific and completely unfair. Interestingly it was my solicitor that advised me that I could legitimately argue that the money was mine before marriage so I should be able to hang onto it.

Anyway I am hanging onto the money and not touching it even though my wife is sending solicitors letters demanding it.

Good advice about getting the confirmation from the Mediator

I guess I now have to either wait it out or progress things myself through the courts!

thanks for your advice

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01 Apr 20 #511989 by Carlsberg71
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I hope that’s the case. Your circumstances may indeed be different to mine, but 10 years is quite a length of time. I guess it depends on your ages, and what she has brought to the table before you got married too.
Good luck and keep smiling.

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01 Apr 20 #511990 by Chevette
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Thanks....its pretty hard to smile, but I do try. I had all the assets including the house before we met so I am looking to share everything that was accrued during the Marriage, there are no kids so I think thats pretty fair.....but we'll see,

take care

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08 Apr 20 #512061 by Chevette
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Hello Carleberg71, Have sent you a private message on your profile. if you get a chance to reply I would be most grateful.

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09 Apr 20 #512068 by Carlsberg71
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Hi,
Have replied.

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09 Apr 20 #512070 by Chevette
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Thanks, I've responded

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