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08 Jun 22 #519433 by Kashi
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My wife solicitor has made a referral for a mediation meeting as below. What is the first initial meeting about exactly.
I thank you in advance for your answers.I have received a referral from ......... regarding mediation between yourself and your wife.We would be pleased to assist you with setting up some mediation.Initially, both parties would be required to attend separate ‘intake’ appointments with the Mediator.At this appointment the mediator would meet with you, take some details and discuss with you the process of mediation and the various other options available to you, in order that you can make an informed decision about whether Mediation is the right option for you or not.In the event that both of you wanted to mediate then a joint session could be set up. If either of you did not want to use mediation, then the mediator can sign the form that you would need in order to progress an application through the court process.
  1. The fee for the individual intake appointment (lasting up to 45 minutes) would be £150 plus VAT. (This also includes the signing of the form if required)
  2. The fee for the joint appointment (lasting up to 90 minutes) would be £300 plus VAT, which is usually split equally between the parties.
During this time, all appointments are taking place via ‘Zoom’ video conferencing.If you would like to proceed, I would be grateful if you could complete and return a copy of the attached referral form.

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08 Jun 22 - 08 Jun 22 #519436 by Rickoshea
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It's generally to assess your suitability for the mediation and the options it entails.

For example some people will be willing to sit in the same room and attempt to come to an agreement whereas some people may be willing to discuss an agreement but don't like the idea of doing it face to face with their ex-partner and would rather the solicitor or their representative move between rooms i.e. shuttle mediation. And then some people go to the initial meeting and display neither a willingness to move on their expectations and would rather go to court hence mediation wouldn't be suitable. But whichever method is decided it's about showing a court if it does go that far that you attempted to reach an agreement, and for some it's also a way to reach an agreement in a speedier fashion than a multitude of solicitors time and letters about semantics of an agreement that can be easily resolved verbally with people in the same room.

This meeting is for the mediators to gauge what your suitability is for the pair of you by speaking to you both independently and deciding whether it could actually succeed i.e. are you able to act reasonably and are you willing to compromise/move position if required
Last edit: 08 Jun 22 by Rickoshea.

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09 Jun 22 #519441 by hadenoughnow
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It is worth checking if you can get a mediation voucher for £500. The government has just extended the scheme that was introduced to try to keep people away from the court process.


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10 Jun 22 #519454 by Kashi
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Thank you very much for all your replies.

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